5.GIRLS AND THEIR PARENTS AND THEIR PARENTS - IN - LAW........

   A GIRL MEANS


                                   G - Granted ( With )

                                  I - Inner Mega power ( Which is )

                                 R - Real (And )

                                 L - Logical 

   1. To Girls ; 

    When every  girl is able to understand that they have been blessed with dual roles accompanied with dual powers,it is well and good.It means, they have been trained meticulously at one place and would be given responsibilities to get gradual practical knowledge in another place.By nature itself, girls are made to feel their one third of presence at their birth place and two third at their destined place.At birth place a girl is considered to be a " Princess "
where as at her destined place she would be a " Queen ". Hence in the prior place she is supposed to made to learn to lay a strong and smart foundation to rule her oncoming territory to maintain an admirable atmosphere " All is well ".

   And in the latter place,she tends to implement all her knowledge and tactics practically to check whether she can make it possible to bring the same and good atmosphere, " All is well " and whether she can stabilise it through her available internal and external resources all through her roles of honour.

   2. To Girls parents;

   It is a known fact that one's religious faith plays major role to lay a strong foundation to every individuals to lead a moral,logical and decent life.Our girls have a beautiful far and wide survival capacity naturally,by spreading their wings of their choice.At the same time,their mere survival doesn't bear any fruit.It is considered to be her parents' humble role to make it very clear that their girls's survival is to be recognised by the strong foundation of their respective religious culture which helps them to lead a moral,
logical and decent life.Then it would be possible for the girls to spread their wings in good determination in all directions and at the same time,it would be possible for all their respective relations to be under their wings with all comforts.

 To the Girls parents -  in law.

   Once girls are elegantly transferred from their parents to the parents - in - law  with a request to help her to march forward with smart strides,through  a good ceremony,the parents - in law are expected to guide them through their good leadership,how to lead a family elegantly and efficiently.Thus, through this the girls are going to be ready to play and honour their respective roles in future with all sort of smartness.This learning,implementation and passing on to the next generation is said to be the way of respecting universal law.

    When this circle is on its way with " Feel the relation  pattern ", then there would  be an ample chance to bring down any sort of complications in every one's family life.Because,in many cases boys are failed to maintained their balance at their sedentary place due to some negative influence caused by some immature girls in their family life.Boys "Balanced position " is very very important in maintaining comforts in one's family.That stable balanced position  of boys can be protected and preserved by these girls who have been given knowledge about their strong moral and logical foundation which would be refined by creating positive chances of implementation.Then they are able to be good leaders and they  are able to create good leaders in future.    

                                 

   

   

4.Every family member..............

   A Humble Request To Every Family Member.  


   Before we begin this topic,first let us have a warm hand shake and a warm hug to every member of our family.In the same way before we get into this topic, let our mind be in the relaxed manner,I mean relaxed to the core as the needle of a  " BALANCE " in its " BALANCED " Position.i.e. no plus" + "  or no minus "  _  "  mindset. Let our mind be in the balanced position i.e. in the " ZERO "position.


   Now here our humble request starts.How? Even though we are the part of our family, we are individuals.Every individual, irrespective of our age,sex, we individuals make a family.After all a family is  nothing but a team.So all individual have their own respective aspirations and their own strategies to achieve their aspirations for a common goal.i.e. "To preserve our Family's Dignity ". Our activities are in the position to bring either positive or negative impact on our family name.i.e on our team's name.If they bring positive impacts mean, then there would be no problem at all.When there would be a state of drawing negative impact by an individual or by the individuals of the family,it could be reconsidered by the individual himself /herself or by the individuals themselves.Because,  , one way or the other,directly or indirectly,as positive impacts,every individual of a family is being responsible for negative impacts also.


    So, the simple strategy to maintain a family as a family i.e. a team as a good team is " Here we go...........".i.e. every individual of a family, with no harms to one's individuality,try our best to arrange for a one to one and face to face interview with our own " INDEX FINGER " minimum once a day.Instead of using our Index Finger on other members of our team i.e other members of our family for, A - for Accusation, B -for Blame Games, C - for Criticizing, and so on......turn the same Index Finger towards us to check our " Index "properly.After all,self care is the best care which leads to team's care to bring welfare to the core.

   

3.To be Patient.

   The word " patient " itself is being impatient when it comes across either one to one meeting or one to many meeting with us at this ongoing swift scenario.Because it thinks we are not at all ready to lend our ears to it.It often wonders," How can I cope with them with no co-operation from their side .Even when they are not at all ready to lend their ears to any simple matters,how can I get them with all their ears for any important matter.

   For any process,if we need a good out put means,we are never supposed to forget to add the ingredient " The Patience ".With no patience,no expected good output.So to bring the output more or less to the satisfactory level,we are to give good consideration to this great ingredient " The Patience ".All right now let me stop beating around the bush.Let me come to the point how to produce this great ingredient and how to stock it for our personal use.

   The first and the foremost step to produce this ingredient for our personal use is, we are to understand that we all are individuals,
irrespective of whatever relation it would be.So every individual has their own views. Depending on their own atmosphere,their views are also would be different.So we are not supposed to emphasise our views on others.In the same time our views and suggestions ( Either positive or negative ) could be put forward with good clarity by analysing the atmosphere,from our point of view.Let the ball in others' court.By doing this we do create an equal opportunity to others to put forward their own views with the same good clarity.So we are to listen to them.We can feel the majestic entry of the great patience.

   Another simple way to make the great patience to stay with us forever is,instead of treating living things into the non-living things,let us treat non-living things into the living things at home and at our working place.( Play grounds are exceptional )I mean not to drag chair and table and so on,not to throw the remote to the sofa,let not allow our children' merciless kicking of their play things. Let us encourage ourselves and our children that non-living things also have all feelings.So,we have to handle the non-living things with all care policy.Once we get ready to handle the non-living things with good care means,naturally we would be ready to handle the living things,I mean our dears and nears with all good care.Because they have real feelings.It seems to help us a lot to be in good terms with that great patience. 

   One of the great example for the greatness of this great patience is when we come across the great leader Gandhi's "Non- Violence " movement.Through this movement,this leader could bring the whole nation under one roof which comes under the category of unity in diversity,to achieve its Independence. This would live for ever with its impeccable foot prints in the inter-national political arena.

     Hence,when a nation can achieve its freedom through this great patience means,no doubt we individuals can achieve this freedom in our precious life in every stage,once we get its importance at proper stage.

Shun the Burden

   We all want to be happy. Indeed we all want to be very happy.It means we need no burden.But actually with or without our knowledge we have been allowing ourselves to get crushed under the known but unwanted burdens.

   What? Are we getting crushed under the known but the unwanted burdens? Yes! Indeed a big " YES ".Still we have no clue 
about this.Usually we are not interested in simple things with good clarity.We  are interested only in complicated things with no clarity.

     All right! Why this suspense unnecessarily which seems to be a burden?.We shall come to the point to point out those unwanted burdens which are all time obstacles to reach out our happiness.


   Those obstacles or the burdens are............Here we go.......

1.Angry, 

2.Envy,

3.Hatred.

    These three are inter related and these are the main burden trees from where many evil branches keep growing.The more they grow the more they drain the happiness at the meeting point,at the point physically as well as at the point mentally.

   So,how to get out of this? Just through the old,simple and elegant method through the way " Nip in the Bud ".We all know that saying is easier than doing.But by real good intention and by real good effort we can shun these burdens. Yes! all evil thoughts which definitely lead to evil acts are the real unbearable burdens.

   Hence,a simple way to shun these burdens is "Let us treat others as ' New ' and let us treat ourselves as ' Smart '.It means,when we meet the people every day,no matter whether they are known or unknown,whether related or not related,we just treat them as a new person and treat our meeting is the first meeting.Once this noble thought enter our mind, naturally,we start behaving as smart as possible with the new persons and naturally good recognition of each others' good qualities would start sprouting and there would be no room for these unwanted burdens.

   So this " Others New and we are Smart "  Policy seems to be good policy for ever.

    

 

      

Perspective Per Person. PPP or Triple ' P '

    Generally we people may come under three types.

1.Positive,

2.Negative,

3.Neutral i.e.not bothering about anything else or anyone else.


   When we talk about the Positive People they generally have some feelings with the respective persons and so they are able to connect themselves with the respective people and with their respective atmosphere.Their positive nature would help them to analyse the persons with their respective atmosphere in the positive way in all situations.So they are able to find out the reasons and at the same time they are able to try their best to find out the solutions to help them,if need arises. i.e. their sincere feelings on others,would make them to step into others' shoes.This situation would lead them to empathy as well as sympathy to bring up or to bring down the respective atmosphere to the balanced atmosphere.In other words,these people are called the ' Peace Makers '.They are block
builders.They are Bricks.
  

2 . Negative people;

   These type of people neither do anything productive nor let other 
people do something productive.They try their best to put barriers in all directions for any sort of productive ambitions.They are the bad ambassadors letting people being in a state of confusion.They let not people to be decision makers.As a result people related to them,tend to loose their self-confidence and let them always being in the square ' A '. And as a result the chances for any sort of up-going are made to be very remote by these sort of negative people.In the presence of these sort of people, peace cannot be achieved at any cost.And naturally no development can be seen. As peace and development are the two sides of the same coin,when there is no chance for the peace,definitely there will be no chance for development.So these type of people are called no doubt ' Peace Breakers '.


3.Neutral people;

   These people of the type that they neither appreciate nor depreciate unless for their own cause.They are very self-centred people.They never hesitate to full-fill their own needs by loosing their own dignity.So,naturally they are least bothered about other's dignity also.Hence,they give least importance to the very basic manners.These sort of self centred people have the talent to exploit and manipulate other people's good nature for their own sake tactically.They never come forward for any good general purpose.Even something is going on wrong in front of them,they wouldn't interfere it unless it directly effects them.So naturally,the wrong going are going on and on under their nose.They just mere spectators.These sort of people are ' Prime crime Developers '. 


   So,let us decide ourselves under which " P " we would like to be.


   

The Goodwill Messengers.

   Last week I visited our native place and stayed there with our relatives for one week.We are staying nearly hundred kilometers away from our native place on account of our occupation.I love to visit my native place as often as possible.Because every time of my visit some good things  are in array to add good memories on my account.

   The last visit happened to be the end of December.At our place there is a custom of performing special pujas for the sake of the heaven from mid December to mid January.It is a belief that during this particular period of these two months Gods and Goddesses do visit us to see the happy livelihood of their beautiful world which has been created by them with all their blessings and imagination to bring prosperity to their dreamland.So at that time,we must welcome them with our impeccable hearts through our spiritual customs,through which we are expressing our sincere thanks to them for their profuse blessings and in the same time expressing our sincere promise to them to do our best to  maintain the same prosperity in God's own beautiful dreamland.One such custom is,all through this one month,the male youngsters and male children of every village get up around 4;30 A.M.

    They commence their prayer at one of the temple in the village on the behalf of the whole village through ear candy chanting.And continue them by covering the whole village with their bare feet.Even though it is severe winter season,I believe that their strong good intention to make the heavenly bodies, happy to the core,who have visited our place, has given them that sort of physical and mental strength.During this period,to bring the chanters some comfort, the whole village serve them with some hot coffee with some hot eatables every day in turn.I enjoyed this visit thoroughly.

   Every time,when I have an opportunity to visit my native place,I am in the same strong belief that these strong and impeccable hearts,who are the practical and real visitors of God,and who are worshipping God on behalf of  all people who are living in and out of the native village, are the real messengers between the God and all sorts of people of their place in bringing goodwill to everyone.


   And one more thing I feel is that the inmates of the village are the chief sources in transferring the basic respective customs and respective culture of a respective clan to the generations after generations smoothly and elegantly.There the civilizations flourishes intact. 

BOND

" Bond itself expresses its cozy warm

Where every one's role is on its roam.

To elaborate its strength and security,

It is good to be one to feel its fraternity ".


  The other name for family is BONDING.If everyone of the family members wants to live in a cozy atmosphere,then definitely the  need of the hour is to feel their respective relations genuinely.Because


Feelings lead to humble recognitions;

Humble recognitions lead a fine and shine path;

Fine and shine paths lead to open our hearts;

Open hearts lead to recognize our current roles;

The current roles lead to our respective responsibilities;

Respective responsibilities bring people together;

People together lead to that spectacular caring and sharing;

Caring and sharing lead to bonds in all directions;

Bonds in all directions lead us to all sort of " S " and " S ";

It means " Strengths " and " Securities ".That means,

" All is well with all " to strengthen this " Cozy Bond ".


   Cozy bond is very expressive by our body language.Body language is absolutely vivid when it is
compared with its oral language.So one doesn't need to take any extra efforts to express one's respective love to the respective relations.Just feel the respective relations.Feel to the core.Then BONDS forms gradually,steadily and get strengthened automatically.As usual the first place to start to form this lovely bond is, no doubt our home;our " Sweet Home ".