Thursday, December 26, 2013

The power-The women power-Part IV

   After two or three days of the Aravind's family function,a call from the reception for Aravind  that he had a visitor named Victor. Aravind could understand who was the visitor.He informed this to his cabin and headed towards the reception.It was around three in the evening.

    At the reception counter, the receptionist gestured him towards the direction where Victor was waiting.He seemed to be a bit worried.On seeing Aravind, Victor extending his hand for a warm hand shake,"Hello Aravind!How do you do?Hope you are fine with your lovely family".Feeling that warmth what Victor intended to extend,Aravind gave back the same warmth to Victor through his gentle hand shake replied,"Fine!Thank you!And what about you and your nice family".With a wry smile,"No nice at all.On that day when my children disclosed their unhappiness of being in the family like us,we all were shattered.Whatever efforts you and your family made to even the situation,there always a pricking thorn is there in the whole family.Any how, our heart thanks a lot to you and your family's efforts, especially your wife's efforts to make our family to understand what a real happiness means.By the by I would like to seek your appointment  for some discussion.I really wouldn't like to take much of your precious time,but ......"."No problem at all".Aravind kept his hand on Victor's shoulder,"If you can wait for another ten minutes I will wind up my today's work with the help of my colleagues".

   "Let us have some coffee".Aravind invited Victor to his office cafeteria."If you don't mind let us walk the distance.On the way,we have our coffee in any restaurant".Victor suggested."It would be nice then".Aravind joined him.On the way,they had been discussing about some general topics.. Aravind could understand that Victor had been in some confusion.They reached  a restaurant and selected a corner table for their convenience.

   Aravind waited for Victor to start.They ordered for some hot pagodas with some coffee.Victor started coming out of his mind and heart."Look Aravind!Truly speaking,our family's visit to your place,really gave us a real comfort.Till then, myself and my father were of the opinion that money has the power to bring everything to us.My father learned this wrong lesson from his father who in turn keeps teaching this useless lesson till the date of your family function.But once my son uttered that word"I WISH WE WERE BORN IN YOUR FAMILY".we all as a whole shattered".Aravind didn't say anything.He was doing the good job of listening.Many times,listening is the need of the hour.

   Coffee arrived with those hot Pagodas.After having a sip of coffee with hot Pagodas,Victor seemed to be a bit clear to open his mind."I think,our money scares Clara's family who in turn might have scared Clara, who maintained a distance from our family.We fools!We thought that it was a good respect she was showing towards us.But actually,Clara distanced herself from the fools who are always running after money without having any knowledge of human feelings.I didn't see any real happiness in her as I had seen in her collage photos and at your family function.It is worse, even after all these years of our wedding lock, our family have no knowledge about her sports and music part.She didn't utter any word about this.I think,myself and my father don't see our home as a home but just another office.Now I feel very bad when I think about my mother.Like Clara, till the date,she didn't express any of her desires and passions.Like dolls they both are acting.I sense the cruelty we, I mean myself and my father thrust upon them.As my children,they I mean my mother and my wife might feel  "WISH WE WERE DESTINED TO SOME OTHER PLACE WHERE A REAL HAPPINESS MEANS".With a heavy sigh Victor closed his eyes.

   Aravind placed his hand on Victor's,"It is all right Victor!Regret doesn't hold any water.With our knowledge or without our knowledge,we do mistakes.Many times big mistakes like this.Let bygones be bygones.When our observations are in right angle,some occasions open our inner door.We can make it up.No more remorse.In the beginning I was also in the same opinion that women must be at our service.But Bindhu whipped me on that night I mean our first night.Still I can hear her clear and concrete voice,"Look Aravind!I feel "I am the boss nature" in you.Even after our life partnership if you are in the same opinion,please wipe it out.You men may think that as we women are leaving behind all our blood relations and our familiar places for the sake of you and your family you can treat us as an refugee.But you men are wrong.Totally wrong.Please understand we women are the fittest of the survival.We women can survive any where under any circumstances.One woman can play any role of a family".

   "Leaving those senseless women who really have no knowledge about their positive power,I am talking about the women who have a real knowledge about their positive power.I am one such woman.I and my family deserve your's and your family's love and respect,the same I and my family will reciprocate.You may ask how you deserve it?".

   1."My family send her loving daughter all alone to her destined place as a life partner for someone else with a good faith on their daughter's destined place inmates.Never fail their faith.And they have faith on the moral values they have inculcated in the mind of their loving daughter.With those learned moral values they  have the same faith that their daughter will be a role model to her owned family as a successful life partner and to her next generation as a successful mother".

   2.With those learned moral values I am doing my best to transfer my strangers as my friends through which I can bring some peaceful and happy atmosphere in our family . My only motto is to make our family to feel as we all are one under the same roof wherever we are and whatever occupation we are involved with.I will try my best to bridge all our relations.I expect the same from you and your family.You understand this first and then help your family to understand this beautiful concept.If any move against this concept in any form of indifference from your side "I WILL KILL YOU".Hope I have made myself clear".

   3."I want to stand on my own feet.If you can help me in this regard, it will be well and good.Otherwise I will find something to match with my nature and with my educational qualification.All right! That is all from my side.Would you like to say anything from your side?".

    Bewildered Victor,"Dude what was your response?".He couldn't believe his ears with that concrete message through Aravind's wife Bindhu on behalf of every sensible woman on earth.With a big smile,"What is the need for any response?.When my life partner set her foot in my place,with a guarantee," I will help you to make your place as our place and make your family as our family by creating a cozy atmosphere and in return she persuaded me with the same guarantee of creating cozy atmosphere with her family means it is nothing else but that is the "GIVE AND TAKE POLICY"principle.I didn't find any wrong in it.In fact I am very proud of my wife as she tactically put a big full stop to any sort of 'EGO CLASH' in the beginning itself.I mean,she nipped all the negative things in the bud which may be expected from her destined place"

  "And till the date she is keeping up her promises and in turn she makes me to keep my promises.Now a gentle breeze is prevailing in our family.When Bindhu senses any unwanted, unnecessary changes in the gentleness of the breeze,for the sake of our family,she knows where and when and why and whom and how to stop the ugly factors which try to place its ugly hands on our family.I mean including her birth place.When the time ripe she restart every thing as if nothing had happened."In my family, we are four siblings.In her family, their number is six.We both families have a good rapport with each other with the help of Bindhu,my wife's strong construction of the cozy family bridge.In fact Victor!I am blessed with a nice and sensible life partner who in turn with her concrete diplomatic steps she keeps reminding us what a happy family means".

   Now Victor could clearly understood that there are miles to go to honor his life partner Clara through whom he ought to honor all his roles.Like Bindhu,his better half Clara must be a sensible life partner.For the sake of the family she has been sacrificing so many beautiful things from her side it seemed.He felt so guilt.Then he turned to Aravind,"Dude I would like to honor all my roles.Any useful suggestions from your side?.Pat came the reply."Unconditional support to our family oriented, sensible, positive powered ladies.I think they have some plans on their new venture"."Is it?What is it?".Pacifying the over enthusiastic Victor, with a good hearty laugh "Let them disclose themselves".Aravind paved a new way for Victor.
                                                                                                    To be continued........  

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

The power - The woman power-Part III

   It was the pleasant evening for Bindhu's family where the birth day party was about to start.The family of the birth day baby,were so excited as if everyone of the family was celebrating their own birth day.That is the family.To make every family member to feel as "You are a VIP" to our family.The children's friends chirping in with different color of dresses with different hair style with different age group.The children,reminding the butterflies really an eye candy for everyone.As dawn and dusk,childhood is soooooooooo......pleasant but it seems, we people have no idea about the importance our own childhood as well as the childhood of our own children.

    Then elders entering as chatter box,really registering their visit to explicit their real concern over Bindhu's family.It was 4.15.Everything  was ready.The children checked whether all their invited friends were present.Surprisingly,the friends of Bindhu and Aravind were also turned up with their spouses in time.But no trace of Clara's family.In fact Bindhu secretly borrowed a guitar for Clara to play something on this occasion.But her mind kept telling Clara dare enough to bring her family as a gesture of respect for the kind invitation put forward by her good friend.

   There was a hustle and bustle outside. Bindhu with an expectant look hurried out.Yes!It was Clara with her family. Bindhu was so happy.Recognition  in any sort is really good.By the time Aravind made his presence to accompany his better-half to invite her good friend's family.Clara's family seemed to be very satisfied with the hearty welcome of their host especially Victor's and his father's egos seemed to be rejoicing.After the formalities of introduction in general,Bindhu with the permission of the visitors,she took Clara to the guest room upstairs, leaving Clara's family to her husband's care.

   To Clara astonishment,Bindhu made her to sit for a while,then came back with a Guitar.Clara was totally amused."Bindhu! what is this?You also play Guitar?When did you learn?I have no idea about all these amusements"."No more words.Because no more time.For your information my knowledge about Guitar is Zero.I borrowed this for your sake.We have only thirty minutes left.Practice with your favorite song that you used play on our collage thrilling days".

   Bewildered Clara,"Bindhu! my dear friend! this is not possible for the shorter period.Nearly ten years passed with no more interaction with my favorite instrument".Bindhu dragged a nearby chair and seated opposite to Clara.Keeping one hand on her friend's shoulder and with the other hand lifting her friends chin,"Look!my dear friend!Let your hair down.Have a total faith on you through Him(God).No doubt He will connect your string to your tongue.Of course,practice makes perfection.But your passion of playing your finger on your favorite instrument with your favorite song would bring perfection.With no more hesitation go ahead.I will come back to fetch you sooner.You are a blessed child.Believe it". Bindhu closed the door behind her and hurried down to the ground flour.

   Bindhu noticed that Clara's family seemed to be in some better comfort. Bindhu heaved a sigh of relief.Then she continued her last minute supervision for the function.Everyone was ready to take part in the function.

   It was five to five.Every one was standing around the table on which the birth day baby's birth day cake was placed in the middle of some floral arrangements.Clara's family was looking for Clara.Excited Bindhu went back to upstairs to fetch Clara back.When they both were stepping down,where Clara was with a guitar there was a big question mark on every one's face including Clara's family.

   Bindhu announced."A pleasing news for every one.My friend Mrs.Clara is going to play her favorite song on the Guitar for us as one more feast".Hearty and exciting clapping sound every where.When the sound of music(clapping) came to a halt Bindhu announced."Now time is up. Let us start our party".There was hustle and bustle every where especially in Clara's family.Every one started peering at Clara with a warm smile.Clara felt as if she was in some other world which really taking her to a cozy atmosphere,which she had never felt for quite a longer period. The party started.

   The birth day baby enjoyed thoroughly with all sorts of excitement as she was the center of attention.When every one started having cake of their share after the birth day baby had her mouthful share, the presents were on their row.During all this excitements,Bindhu kept watching Clara and Clara seemed to be uploading and building the confidence within her, that gave Bindhu a sigh of relief.

   Every one was settled down comfortably to lend their ears to the music on Guitar.Music is some spectacular way of transport, that takes us to a  spectacular world which couldn't be explained and as some feelings it could only be experienced.Clara was also no exception.She started melting into the Guitar through her favorite song.She was catching up all those elapsed golden days of music.Gradually she had been immersing in her music.Her passion on her music world had been bringing perfection to her fingers. She was singing i.e.she was flying as if she was being herself  as a real free bird high in the blue sky.The lingering of her music started invading every one's heart, present there and indeed they were also very ready to loose that (Heart) territory for this heavenly music.

   The heavenly music was over.It took some seconds to every one to get back to their own world.Clara's children grabbing Bindhu's children and darted towards Clara, and hugged her and were heartily saying"Mom!simply great! You are an angel!Definitely you are going to teach us how to play Guitar.It must be a promise from your side".They hugged her tightly and said,"We are very proud of you Mom!"Clara hugged them back with soft thanks along with Bindhu's children.By this time the children became good friends to each other.Clara's experience was totally different.Through those various sorts of appreciations through various modes, was really great to feel.Some sort of peace and its elegance, she felt was so pleasant.Praising Clara's wonderful music every one was moving for their dinner.

   Bindhu's family and Clara's family made to sit together to have their dinner.Before took her seat,Bindhu went to supervise whether the dinner and the guests were on their track.Being satisfied with the arrangements,she came back to join her family and her friend's family. After having all these fun for quite some time,Bindhu sensed some good comfort in Clara's family.Bindhu,"Come on everybody!We shall have our dinner".Then she turned to Clara's children "How was your friend's birth day party"?Pat came the reply from Clara's son,

                                      "I wish we were born in your family"                                                                                                                  
                                                                                                   to be continued............




Friday, December 6, 2013

The power-The woman power-Part II

   The following day,Bindhu, under the guidance of Clara's phone,she was able to reach Clara's place in time.It was about five in the evening.She finished doing the arrangements for her lovely daughter's birth day party along with her lovely husband and with her lovely  son.The birth day baby,her daughter had taken all her privileges to supervise the arrangements for the party and she was satisfied with the arrangements her beloved family made for her.She thanked them heartily.When the effort is felt,it means that any occasion would be grander than the previous one.The family of the four understood this phenomena. The whole family had invited their street and some friends of the four who were dwelling nearby.

   Clara was at the gate to invite her good friend with all smiles.Clara's residence was not too far and not too near to Bindhu's. So Bindhu took a bus and by an auto she reached Clara's place.Otherwise she never parted with her lovely two wheeler.Even though it was old,Bindhu maintained it as brand new gold..She never failed to give respect to her two wheeler.Timely service with lively speed with good respect to the road rules and to her fellow road users,help her to have a pleasing journey all the time..So Bindhu and her  two wheeler are made to come under the category "made for each other".

    Her husband has been provided with a car as a gesture of his promotion.His Boss is so good.A good boss is really a boon.Her husband has been allowed to use  his company car as his own car with some liters of  petrol privilege card in a particular petrol bunk.He never misuses his power and his company car.Within certain limit he uses the Company car as his own car..For long distance regarding the family matters,he resorted to the other sources of travelling..

   On seeing Clara at the gate,Bindhu was surprised a bit to see her shining face with her shining dress.Really an admirable, oriented posture.She wondered whether one day would do for the mind to bring this sort of shining when it is fed with some real happiness.Actually even one second would do for the mind to reciprocate its happiness. Bindhu observed."Hi Clara! I am so pleased to see you with some happiness that you have borrowed from our collage days".Clara opened the gate for Bindhu and clasped her hands,"My dear friend! this is not from the collage days,this is from the same old good friend named Bindhu,my sweety".Laughing with heart full and tears with eyes full Clara took Bindhu towards the main entrance of the house. 

   Bindhu noticed the posh portico with a status car as a status symbol.The appearance of the house was marvelous.But for Clara it is mere a house.Not a home. Bindhu observed.Before entering the house,Bindhu could sense the "I am the Boss" nature of the owner.

   Clara took Bindhu into her house.The interior architecture was also so nice.Clara's family members were in the vast hall and watching some events on television.Clara was with her parents- in- law.The family members gave some sort of welcome to Bindhu. Bindhu calculated the family members who were being introduced by Clara..Clara's husband's that stiffness appearance,without moving an inch mentally and physically he just nodded his head as welcome gesture and showed the place to be seated.No ray of smile.Father- in -law who in turn had given his son as a 'Chip of the old block' appearance.Mother-in-law seemed to be so timid when compared with Clara but with a ray of smile on her face as the welcome gesture.Clara's children, a boy and a girl were in dilemma and their eyes very often met their father's as a gesture to seek his permission  for everything it seemed.Totally the atmosphere was not comfortable for Bindhu.

   Bindhu tried to bring an easy atmosphere by calling the children to sit by her side with all smiles in face.We may notice any sort of people are looking so beautiful and handsome when they are playing with children and laugh heartily. Bindhu's that friendly gesture with that beautiful smiling face did attract the children but as usual they looked at their father for his permission.He nodded his head as an approval,then the children with some hesitant came and sat between their mother and  her friend.By the time their servant brought some juice with some snacks.

   Bindhu tasting the juice along with the snacks, she had some interactions with the children.She could sense the children's readiness for some relaxation  and for some fun, forgetting their father's presence. Bindhu handed them some photos of their mother's collage days. Some photos in a get together function,some stills in some inter collage Guitar competitions,some in basket ball tournaments.The children were so surprised and were excited to see their very beautiful and very happy mother in those  photos.

   For every still they kept on giving comments as"You are so beautiful mother! You are so happy! Your this dress is simply superb!That dress is marvelous!Why don't you teach us playing Guitar?Did you forget to play basket ball now?.We shall play basket ball in the evening with our family! without their knowledge they grabbed the photos from Bindhu' hand and darted towards their father and grand parents. Bindhu turned to Clara to see her reaction.The blushed Clara seemed to be back to those collage days.The same old beauty and happiness peeping at her face.As children, Clara's husband and her parents-in-laws could not help admiring Clara in her photos and now her blushed face with that returning beauty.

   Bindhu felt this is the right time to extend her invitation to the whole family for her daughter's birth day party."Er! Excuse me!Mr Clara!".Amused Clara's family including Clara's husband looked at Bindhu."Sorry sir! at our place my husband's friends call my husband as Mr.Bindhu just as his friends call me as Mrs Aravind.I like it very much as I feel, it draws some closeness between myself and my husband.If you have any objection, I will call you as Mr.Victor.What do you say?"But victor said nothing .Clara continued as if she hadn't noticed any thing,"My dear friend's family! As our daughter's birth day falls on Sunday,I think there will be no inconvenience for you all to attend our daughter's birth day party.It starts at 5:30 in the evening and the party will extend up to 7:30.Let us have some fun for the sake of our loving children.Your presence as my dear friend's family will make us proud.My self and my loving husband do hope that you and your family will not disappoint us".

   Clara accompanied Bindhu to the gate,grabbed her shoulder"Bindhu!my dear friend! you are brick.I feel that my family ice starts melting.Thanks a lot!Let God bless my family to turn up for the party.Again Bindhu! remember my life time gratitude for all these good things you have done for me.I feel like getting back myself. May God bless you and your happy family.You know,I always feel that if we would like to pay back God for all his blessings,the best thing is through our real heart felt happiness.When we are cheerful means, we are recognizing the resources we have and recognize the persons who have bestowed those resources to us.Who can be the persons? Only Him and his kingdom.When He sees his blessings have their real value, He is always ready to be by our side  through various resources both in and out.In that way, you are a big resource to me bestowed by Him".

   After a pause,Clara continued,"Bindhu!Why don't we together bring some positive woman power together who have the capability of  making some positive things possible for the sake of women and children?.We all together shall rock ourselves". "Why not?".Bindhu looked at this wonderful lady who has been so creative with the available resources."By the way,am I preaching Bindhu?"Clara laughed heartily as if she had cleaned up the piles of unwanted things she had stored till the second."Not at all my friend!In fact,you have disclosed a fresh thresh hold.Let us think about it".

   After dinner,Aravind asked about her venture, Bindhu beamed at him.He understood that his angel travels in the right direction.

                                                                                                                 To be continued......

Saturday, November 30, 2013

The Power - The Woman Power-Part I

   It is the location which helps many ladies many times to have their nostalgia.You can guess the location.Yes it is the invariable location which has all these credits is,yes you are correct.Ten points to those who have found the correct answer.It is the VEGETABLE MARKET.The important place for everyone for one reason or the other,one  day or the other for their nostalgia.Green memories at green place.i.e.THE VEGETABLE MARKET.

   There,as usual every one seemed to be with some busy interactions with their choice of vegetables either with their family or all alone.But definitely this place gives some refreshment with all sorts and with all colors of vegetables and green leaves.People were moving around to reach the vegetables of their choice.If you have time,like all other places,the vegetable market also helps us to study the people.Quite interesting.

    As everyone,Bindhu also came there to take home some vegetables of her choice and of her family's choice.As she was collecting her vegetables she was casually looking around to conform if there was some familiar figures.Her eyebrows raised  with some surprise when she spotted some one.With her half-done collections of vegetables,Bindhu heading towards that figure.The pathetic disoriented figure.But some life long identification aspects would be there for any sort of figure as an Identification Card. Bindhu touched   that figure gently and the figure turned around. Bindhu,"Hello Madam!Please Don't say at the end of my question "Yes! I am Clara".One second the figure examined Bindhu,and burst out laughing."Oh My God! my young lady! If you say I am Bindhu,I have no objection at all".

   For Clara,she  could not help admiring Bindhu's eye candy appearance who was her senior by two years in collage and their team's basket ball team captain.Very approachable and jovial person.She used to give no time to any player in the team to regret their mistakes in any sort of match."Come on! cheer up every body!Still we have umpteen chances.Grab them". She was the only person who was in the leading position to preserve the team spirit till the end of the game.So the teams under her leadership,no doubt has emerged with so many spectacular victories.Now the old Basket ball Captain was standing in front of Clara with the same vigor and enthusiasm.Clara was motionless. Bindhu's confident posture,her attire and her hair style for her age along with her full of beans nature, all these features made her appearance as junior to Clara. Clara felt so sick.

   Understanding Clara's sickness,Bindhu uttered the same old energetic words,"Come on Clara!Cheer up!Stop regretting for everything.We have umpteen chances;Grab them.Now it is the time to grab our choice and our family choice of vegetables".As usual Bindhu gave Clara no time for any of her regrets and took her hand within her and started going around the vegetable market.After paying the bill they set their foot outside the vegetable market.Still Clara was helpless to divert her eyes from Bindhu."Clara!my dear!Stop inspecting me.Instead inspect the road.The traffic is heavy.I very badly want to have some sandwiches with our favorite ice-creams to celebrate our meeting after  very long years.But the ice cream parlor is at the other side of the road.We have to cross the road.Be careful.Come along!"Bindhu grasped Clara's hand and crossed the road successfully.

   As it was around six in the evening,the ice-cream parlor was crowded  as usual.Week days morning hours seem to be better for some tasks.Buying vegetables,shopping,hospital visits etc.But it is hard to find time for all  which in turn we choose the evening hours which seem to be a tough hour to escape from being sandwiched from almost all directions. Bindhu and Clara waited for some time to get their seats.Then they relaxed themselves on their seats. They ordered for their respective favorite ice creams and sandwiches.All these time,Clara noticed one thing that there was no surge of tensions could be traced in Bindhu's every action.Being as cool as ice,she seemed to be enjoying the atmosphere.Even though Clara made a phone call to her husband and informed him about her being late,she was not sure how it would be taken.But still she was on her wide eyes thinking how it could be possible for Bindhu to maintain the same "Nothing to worry" nature,even after entitled herself in her destined place.

   After having some comfort,Bindhu turned to Clara,"I think now it is the time to catch up with the details about  our self after our collage ever green time".No response from her. Still Clara seemed to be not comfortable with any thing.It would take some more time for her to relax.In the collage days Clara was a good player.Very co-operative.As she was belonging to rich family and was having a good fondness on dresses,her dressing sense was amazing.Very good at playing Guitar.She won so many inter collage Guitar competitions and even after all these possessions, definitely she was not head strong.But now her appearance had no single similarity with her collage days. Bindhu assumed that Clara must be in some dilemma.So she decided to let Clara have her favorite ice-cream with sandwiches to fill her stomach then through which it would be easy to open her heart.

   Their favorites snacks were served.Watching all her favorite items,in no time Clara tasted every thing with all her taste buds with a child's happiness.."Thanks a lot Bindhu!It had been a long time since I had this cherish moments.You have given me those moments of our collage days.Remember my life time gratitude for you for ever".Clara expressed her thanks with full excitement.This was too much for Bindhu as if it seemed as Clara doesn't have any sort of relation with the outside world.

    After having their heart and stomach got filled with the related things,Bindhu started to inquiring about Clara's  day-to-day activities concerned with her destined place.To Bindhu's surprise all those happiness what Clara had been enjoying till that second had drained.Tears were rolling down on her cheeks with no control,from her instantly turned red eyes.Taken aback, Bindhu pressed Clara's palm gently,"Leave it Clara!Now let us move .Already it is too late for both of us.By the by my younger daughter's birth day party falls on the day after tomorrow.I do extend my warm invitations to you and your family.I will make a call for your husband tomorrow as a gesture of kind invitation for the party.We shall catch up everything there.Now let us not spoil our cherish moments.I will drop you at the bus stop in my two wheeler".

    Even after settled in her bed,Bindhu couldn't identify her exact feelings  for Clara.Watching her restlessness,her husband and a her good life partner came for her help.After hearing all these regrets from his sweet heart about her good friend,he said,"Dear! I think it would be good to study your good friend's destined place's family back ground.Then it would be easy for you to decide your direction to help your friend.So you extend our daughter's birth day party invitation to their family personally.Personal meetings gives us some better idea.What do you say?"."Excellent! my dear! a good suggestion.Thank you so much".Bindhu hugged her heart throb and went to bed with all her relaxed mind.




Thursday, November 21, 2013

Come, Start and Complete

   It was Sunday. Kishore was busy with the that day's News paper with so many  subscriptions on various matters.Ah! what a day  a Sunday.You can stick to your bed to some more time as if it really belongs to you.After up from the bed lazily, a hot cup of coffee would be waiting for you with the warm copy of that day's Newspaper with colorful subscriptions.Holding the hot coffee in one hand while the other hand would be busy with the brand new News paper,Oh! it is so nice..The aroma of coffee as well as the News paper, really it couldn't be explained.It should be experienced.

   But you see,the Sunday would be the special day for the every family member expect the head of the family lady which seems to be a day consuming more of her time in the name of preparation of some special meals or to be ready to receive the visitors.Everyone would be having their breakfast in different times depending on their "Wake up bright time".In the end of the day she seems to be worn out.Even though all these difficulties are there she would be also expecting the Sunday with some excitement.The special meals she would prepare for her family with the help of all family members would bring that much satisfaction to her.The exclamations from the rest of the family on the taste of the special meals would bring her all happiness.She would enjoy it.More over she could find some extra time to be with her family.So good indeed.

   Around ten thirty Ashok,the elder son of eleven years old and the daughter Meenu of six years old lazily got up from the bed and came towards their father, comfortably seated on his lap.Seeing their lovely children,Kishore kept the News paper aside and with that much love and pride he made them sit on his lap comfortably."Good morning and good day dad".This is the usual cheerful greetings from his children which was taught to them at their early stage."Good morning and good day to you both.Have you had good night sleep?"Kishore asked fondly.Then he turned his head towards the kitchen,"Shree!You see Ashok and Meenu got up.Make coffee ready for them".

   Shreenithi,,Kishore's Sweet heart,came out of the kitchen and hugged her children with the same warm greetings and asked about their good night sleep just as Kishore. The children were made to understand that a "Good night" sleep is very important as good diet."We had a very good night sleep Mom"answered Ashok and turned to his lovely sister "Didn't we Meenu?" for more conformation. Meenu approved it with her all smile by nodding her head up and down.Then they looked around "Where are our loving grand parents?.They have promised to take us to the Circus which has come  to our town last week"."They have been to the hospital to see our family friend Grandpa Nathan.Yesterday evening we visited him you know".Meenu answered."As you said,we prayed for his quick recovery Mom!".Ashok told."That is good".Giving a fond pat to them Shree was about to turn to the kitchen.

   Kishore started."Dad and mom's little sweet friends!Now it is your turn to start and complete your every task one by one elegantly by consulting the time.Hope it is all right with you". Meenu with little more laziness."Dad and Mom as it is Sunday would you people please give us some more time to relax a bit?".There was an earnestness  seen in her tone."All right! five minutes granted as an additional relaxing time".With some not approving voice Shree turned to her son,"Ashok I told you people umpteen times,that how important our first meal of the day, break fast is.Help your sister to clean her teeth and bring her to the dining table soon.I will lay the table.Myself,Dad and our grand parents finished having our breakfast.You people come soon".Making the children a bit faster,Shree headed towards the kitchen.

   Ashok persuaded his reluctant sister to get her tooth cleaned,"Look Meenu!as our parents and grand parents say we are to start and complete our every task in such a way. So as morning chores.Otherwise it would bring many sorts of  troubles for every one.My angel sister know!Cleaning our teeth should not take more than two minutes.Concentrate!".Within thirty minutes the kids finished doing their morning chores with the help of their parents. Kishore and Shree in one voice,"You angels came,started and completed your morning chores in stipulated holiday time.That is good;Keep it up".The kids seemed to be very satisfied with their timely responsibility.The real appreciation boosts them very well.

   Then the children allowed to play for one hour and thirty minutes to play with their friends for some time some indoor games and some time with some outdoor games.Some time at their home and some time with their friends at their place.Both Ashok and Meenu were careful about their basic manners which were very often being reminded by their own family members.They never set their foot on the couch or bed at their own place as well as at others residence.If they want to play with their friends's play things they seek permission from their friends and if need arises from their parents for that particular plaything.They kept reminding their friends also about these basic manners by saying,"Our parents say so;our grandparents say so".This brought their friends parents to be under dilemma whether they failed to teach their children about these basic manners which would bring disgrace to their children along with themselves.So naturally they were under the impression to analyse themselves and about their children regarding these basic manners.

     Ashok and Meenu dispose their dresses,uniforms and socks in the washing place if they need to be washed.They maintained their bookshelf in such a way that there would be no difficulties in arranging their books before their bed time.While playing with the play things they use the same strategy of come start and complete.i.e.They let every plaything to go back to its own place after playing with the things get over.When they receive guests they greet them with all smiles.If they bring children with them, Ashok and Meenu would give them a good and comfortable company by all means.They learned to start and complete strategy for each and every task in the stipulated time whether it is big or small. Before they go to bed they would check their next day schedule and how long that day schedule would take to get completed.Gradually they kept upgrading themselves with time management and with some perfection in completing their task.

   Indirectly the children taught back to their parents and grand parents from whom they kept learning every thing.If they say "Oh my God! I forgot to do this or that".the children asked them back,"You elder people always remind us to start and complete one task after other according to their priorities in the assumed stipulated time but you elders seem to be not serious with it.I think we children seem to be good at this timely work but you elders seem to be not bothering about this at all".This statement made the elders so uncomfortable so they would try to be on their track by helping each other as a personal assistant to remind the things to start and complete.They realized that mere preaching doesn't hold any water when concerned with children,minding  their own practice would help them to be in the good books of their children.

     Evening Ashok and Meena finished doing their home work with the help of their parents and grand parents as fast as possible but with the logical understanding about the concept of home work.They arranged their books there itself according to the next day's time table.Then they were all marching towards the exciting  Circus tent.Definitely, the whole family members' emphasis on"Start and complete the task" strategy has its own real value.


                 EVERY THING BEGINS AT HOME.


Wednesday, November 13, 2013


  A.   Analyze yourself whether  you are a person with warm words or a person with war of words. Because it is a known fact that warmth brings warmth and war brings war.

  B.     Begin your day with words which should always must start with a lower pitch with all  living things and non-living things.i.e no shouting and no dragging.

  C.     Cleaning helps us to find our lost treasure.So clean up your mind with spiritual thoughts or some positive thoughts or with some happy moments.Garbage always brings bad odour which in turn lead to war of words.Every one hour check the state of your mind and you can find out that a smooth replacement would be on its process.Never forget it to practice it for minimum one week. Then the powerful and loyal mind would understand its role and it starts look into the matter.i.e it always reminds you to be with warm words with all living and non-living things.

   D.    Do something productively for every half-an-hour no matter whether it is five minutes project or five seconds project and no matter whether you are in your working place or at your home sweet home. Example:Reminding your friends about the important office meeting or birth day parties of your family personalities or your colleague or your friends or collect the forgotten details which your boss asked you to submit as early as possible or try to find some solutions for some official problems or for some family problems which need your immediate attention.

           .i.e Your mind would be with full of beans. Remember" The idle mind is devil's workshop".In this process you do give importance to the persons at home as well as in your working place which in turn you will be in the good books of many persons which would bring you a feeling of safe and security.  Hence no rooms for war of words.

     E.    Eat properly.Make sure whether your every meals in a day is a nutritious one with vegetables and fruits and with sufficient water.High nutritious meals have a good rapport with warm words.

     F.     Find some space and time for your visit to your own specialized area everyday.Ten minutes visit every day is far more better than one hour visit in a week.Practice in your specialized area brings warm words of appreciation and encouragement and they help you to build your confidence.No place and time for war of words.

     G.    God is omnipresent and omnipotent.Believe in God.He never fails to answer a faithful prayer.So pray to him to monitor your every day schedule.Then it is His responsibility to make your day with an atmosphere which would bring warm words not with war of words.The only thing you have to do is deserve His monitor.

     H.    Hot drinks always create war of words.

     I.     Itching leads war of words.Let bygones be bygones.No more itching

     J.     Jolly going avoids war of words.It can be done only by  regular practice.Make sure  nothing is wrong from your side.Then make things as simple as possible by saying" for this prevailing atmosphere it seems good to me.If you have different opinion you try for it".Just leave the matter to take its own course.Simplicity always being in the first row pushing the complications back.

    K.     King you are! Assume you are the King of your own territory.So naturally your interaction with the King of other territory would be as smart as possible.Even if you assume others as subjects of yours no problem.A good king's first duty is the  welfare if his subjects.So only warm words have to be placed there.

     L.     Listening is the best tool to generate warm words.Honestly speaking, no one is ready to lend their ears to anyone else but they desperately expect others to lend their ears to oneself.This suppresses the warm words to a great extent and lead to war of words.So with real interest and with real editing capability try to show some real concern to your close circle with their day-to-day activities.This naturally brings warms words.

    M.     Mind  the Gratitude always.Recognize the timely help whether it was big or small it was the help that came in time.Recognize the respective persons  with real concern.It gives room only to warm  words.

     N.      No to  telling tales and keep the Gossip mongers at an arm distance.This is the healthy way to avoid war of words.

     O.      One man army is the best policy.It means you are a reliable personality with all soft skills.So no chance to war of words.Chances are there for warm words only.

      P.      Positive approach always brings warm words.

      Q.     Quick observation of the situation helps us to avoid war of words.When we  are the person in a particular situation, to call a spade a spade, never hesitate to act so.This avoids war of words later.

      R.       Refresh yourself everyday with some mental and physical exercises.They will help you to get some control to avoid war of words.

      S.        Silence brings no regrets.Be wise enough to know when to be silent to avoid war of words.

      T.        Travelling is the best Mentor to teach us how blessed we are in one way or the other.So it leads us to thank God one way or the other forever which eliminates our war of words nature and helps us to resort to generate warm words.

      U.        Under estimation and over confidence are always dangerous.Try to understand many things are not as they seem.Our ignorance may lead to war of words.So be sensible to sense the power of any individual within our circle to avoid war of words.

       V.       Victory starts with warm words which help to build a good rapport with our respective field.

      W.        Winning throughout our life is so simple unless you are ready to kick back your Ego.When conflict is over,stand aside as a third person and analyse yourself genuinely.If your conscience pricks you that you are wrong, never never never hesitate to say the magic word "Sorry" genuinely.It brings miracles of hale and healthy warm words which helps us to shut the door of war of words.

      X.         Xchange Your good ideas with good intentions with your reliable circle.This healthy bond always generates warm words

      Y.         Yet  do we have another chance of birth with same relatives?No chance at all.So try to preserve the present relations with warm heart which are the birth place of the warm words.

      Z.          Zoooooooooooooom! This is the result of the warm words for a jolly ride throughout our life.

Wednesday, November 6, 2013


   Chandramohan was in his easy chair for a very long time with same position.The spiritual speech about oneself  kept on ringing his ears.It was 8:30.Time for dinner.Still he was in the same position.This time his mind was not fishing in the troubled water.But it was taking him along with it to the various places and the persons related  to the places with various mock conversations.The mind seemed a bit all right position.

   Chandramohan got up.He walked the paces for some time.He tried to grasp the message of that wise man,"Unless you are ready to reform yourself you can,t expect any reforms around you".After  some time he decided something."Why don't I put myself under this trial".The decision itself  seemed to persuade him to some strides forward.He checked the time.It was 9:10.At that time there was some knock at the door.Amused Chandramohan opened the door.It was Deena,his youngest lovely brother.With a broad smile,like a child he had some excitement with him."Thank God! thanks a lot.Now my brother is at his good side to taste his favorite dinner.Brother! you know everyday I bring your dinner.No need to knock the door. It was always wide open but you were in your closed circled position in your easy chair.I had to take the untouched dinner in the morning.But I consoled myself that my older brother would be old enough to have his breakfast and lunch at his school canteen.And now when I see your closed door,I feel that something is going to open within you".Indulging in the conversation,Deena laid the table and grasped his brother's hand and made him to sit on the dining chair.Wow!Mushroom rice with boiled egg gravy with a bowl of thick curd with some home made chips with a big glass of tomato soup.The hot and aroma twisted Chandramohan's taste buds and at the same time they started tasting something earlier that is nothing but his own tears.

   Chandramohan Pushed back the gulp formed in his throat and with no more fuss he started eating.Then and there his eyes met Deena's eyes which seemed to be moisturing.After a very long time Deena collected the empty bowls with all happiness and with a fond good night message he left.

   It was 10:30.A good nutritious  meal has the ability to make the mind sound enough. Chandramohan started examining the things around him.If his wife would be there at that time she would kill him.She is Mrs clean.His home sweet home became trash bitter trash.Being some trash himself, he was in the middle of all sorts of trash.Now no time for gaining  any energy and effort to clear the trashes off.He made some place to sleep and went to have a good night sleep only by God's grace.

   Really by God's grace,Chandramohan was able to have a good night sleep after a very long period.He could feel some serenity  in his mind like a stream.The stream mind was very clear to reflect himself.He got up and finished doing the morning chores.Then he started analyzing himself and his atmosphere.He seemed to be all right now.Bur his atmosphere was not an encouraging one.The words on television ringed its bell again in  his ears."If you are ready to reform yourself,everything start reforming around you;Unless you reform you can't expect any reforms around you".

   Chandramohan pondered for some time.A clear decision arose.i.e.The need of the hour is to" plan ".A decision was made to go along with the time.All" time related plans" work.It seemed to him.He calculated the available time that was in his hand.Thirty minutes more to get ready to catch the village bus to go to school.By that time he could segregate the trash to be disposable and to be washable and to be cleaned.In a wind speed he tried his best with the stipulated time.He whirled like a wind and finished the job when his own ten minutes were in his hand.He kept the disposable rash at his backyard in a big sack.The washable clothes had been rolled up in a big bed sheet and packed in a wardrobe near the washing machine.The cleaning seemed to take some time.

   Now his home sweet home looked much more better.If cleaning had been done  it would be meant for spic and span.But no time for it.All right it could be done in the evening. So quickly took a shower and got ready.While he was standing in front of the mirror,he had some observation about his attire and appearance.They didn't deserve any appreciation.Once he had the appearance reminded  an actor of his region.But now he himself could not tolerate his own appearance.He really didn't want the attire he wore.Some sort of uneasiness went through him."Oh my God! All these days have I been with this sort of attire in my working place?".He felt very bad.He checked the wardrobe again.He could find some intact pressed  dresses.Heaved a sigh of relief he changed his dress.While he was combing his hair in front of the mirror it also gave him a much more better reflection.With some satisfaction he locked the door behind him and left the home.But his bus had gone.Somehow he manged to reach his working place in time by hiring a cab.

   At school his colleague were watching him as if he was from some alien state.Overlooking it he wished every one heartily and entered his presence in the register in the Head Master's office and went back to his seat in the staffs' room.He checked his time table.No first period for him for any class.But he had no idea about the taken lessons for any class.He didn't maintain his own register for a long time.No meaning to go to any class with no knowledge of where to start.He checked his time.Fifteen minutes more for the every day prayer to begin to make every school day be a nice day.

   He darted to his classes to get the details.The students raised their eye brows with lot of surprise to see their own class teacher.No staggering and no stammering with no unbearable odour from their class teacher.They couldn't help admiring their class teacher's shrink less attire with his squared shoulders with amazing enthusiasm in his clear speech.Many times they were cursed by the other class teacher during combined classes due to his hectic schedule.Now they heaved a sigh of relief and were anxiously waiting for their own class teacher who turned a new leaf. Chandramohan could sense the excitement of the classes which seemed to be contagious.

    After the school prayer he was busy taking the notes  and hints for all his classes.His subject could understand his effort and energy, it co-operated very well.The subjects start stimulating  his brain to help him to get the gist of the matter.When the siren for the second period called Chandramohan as others,he collected his materials and headed towards his first class with full awareness.His colleague could sense his"Demanding Respect" strides.

   In the evening when Chandramohan got down from the bus as usual his lovely brother Deena was waiting for him.To his astonishment his brother was glittering.His steady paces with that enchanting smile made him very handsome.Deena was so happy and his happiness led him to dumbstruck. Chandramohan came towards his brother,"Deenu I am all right!I hope perfectly all right.I had a wonderful day to-day.Come on let us go.By the way could you lend your hand to help me in some cleaning now"."By all means brother.Can you feel my bubbling happiness to see my brother as clear stream?".Chandramohan hugged his brother as if Deena was a ten year old child."Deenu we have more to do with our loving cousin Arjun and I owe a lot
to you all including our beloved parents.I want to pay back you all.I have so many plans and strategies for the welfare of our beloved family.Are you ready to go with me?"."Again by all means my loving brother".They both had a hearty laughter.



Friday, November 1, 2013


   In that village the particular house had its never ending story of distasteful one.The owner of that house is in one of a noble profession, the teaching.When considering the owner Chandramohan's  parents the house seemed to be a pathetic one..When considering the owner Chandramohan  himself it was disgusting.Simply saying he was a drunkard.Addicted  to the drinks he drove her wife mad and led her having her unwanted stay at her birth place very often with her two children.She  and her husband were a big head ache to the both her destined and birth place.It was the common sight of the village people to see the evening show of Chandramohan's uncivilized state which had been tried to be modest by his youngest brother Deena in helping his brother to reach his residence safely.

   The village people used wonder that being in one of a noble profession teaching,what,when,why and how he was teaching to the children.They were right.They got the answer. Chandramohan's addiction to drinks state didn't allow him to bring a good result in his subject Social Science even though he has the  ability to make the children to love that subject.So on punishment basis he had been transferred to many schools.So he was not able to co-ordinate with his teaching.i.e he was never teaching. The whole family's effort and his District Education Office's effort, all were in vain.

   Chandramohan is the eldest of his family He has two brothers and no sisters.He belongs to a respectable upper middle class family.His grand parents's respectful state has been still preserved by his parents and his youngest brother Deena. Chandramohan is a government teacher and his second brother who seems to have more brain among these three brothers who is working in a reputed University with so many higher Degrees in a metropolitan city.He comfortably settled in  his place with his family and had no idea about the matters related to his native place and his family.Very rarely he visits the village all alone and the reason he put forward for not taking his family is that they don't like the village atmosphere.They are very well with the highly sophisticated metropolitan city.

   On the contrary the youngest brother never turned his face towards higher education after completing his school level.But he never fails to learning.He loves nature.He is a good agriculturist.The whole village opinion is that Deena took after his grand parents and his parents as a whole.His parents are with him.They love to be with his family.Such a darling son to them.Some common and usual skirmishes come and go in his family from his wife side but Deena as his parents say God's son uses all his tactics to keep his family as a whole with evergreen pleasing state.He earns the same respect what his grand parents and his parents were and are still earning.He is very close to his paternal cousin Arjun who is the youngest son to his family and is of Deena's age who has three elder sisters.The village wonders whether Deena and Arjun are twins.

   On that day Deena was waiting for his brother Chandramohan to escort him to his home but by God's grace for one reason or the other Chandramohan got down from the evening bus as a clean slate.Seeing his brother Deena,"Deenu why are you waiting here?What is the matter?"asked Chandramohan with the elder brother's that concern.A wise elderly person who was standing there at that time with that similar concern,"You fool! you really haven't had any idea about this?.Your youngest lovely brother is as usual waiting here to escort his eldest drunkard brother  to his place".

   For a second there was utter silence. Chandramohan seemed to be frozen.Watching his eldest brother's state,Deena's polite request to that elderly person was,"Father please don't let me have any more pain".Then with all his smiling face,Deena grasped his eldest brother's hand,"Leave it bro,how was your day to -day?Still we all have faith on you.What about a cup of coffee with our parents?".Deena tried his best to ease the situation and started walking with his brother.

   With no more words Chandramohan accompanied Deena to Deena's place.With no idea about the actual situation,even though Deena tried for some diversion, his parents pointing Chandramohan, asked the same usual question,"Is he all right to-day Deenu?".Chandramohan could felt his parents regret about their own inability to help his son to come out of this all time pain experiencing state.

With no more words Chandramohan came back to his place.His mind was at  its full speed in fishing in the troubled water.He silently opened the door.The home seemed to be unusual silent.He settled in his easy chair and had no idea about which direction to move.Even though he has  his own beautiful family,being a drunkard, he himself let a big rift between himself and his family.With no idea, he switched on the television.His fingers with random speed kept on changing the channel.At one point, in one channel,one program related to the spiritual side was going on.

   There a person seemed to deserved to deliver that speech,"We people always blaming others for all events which lead to rifts and unhappiness in us and also in our nears and dears circle.When we analyse it from our healthy side we can find out the truth that we ourselves  in one way or the other are to be blamed for the same as we are not at all ready to take the due responsibilities. i.e there is always an escapism would be the chief reason for all these rifts and unhappiness.In other words we are not  at all ready to honor our roles.The readiness of taking more of your own responsibilities would lead to bring more respect which would bring you more passive listeners to keep a whole as a whole with no rifts with all happiness.Unless you are ready to reform yourself you can not expect any reforms around you."The speech was going on and on.But the above part would be enough for Chandramohan for some realization.

   On hearing this Chandramohan's mind stopped from the fishing in the troubled water.It takes some time to settle down.Then in a clear state it persuaded him for his self analysis.For the first time he was ready to weed his mistakes by asking himself,"Did I honor my roles as son,brother,husband,father and a teacher?"

   No doubt in it. Mr.Chandramohan conscience starts working and definitely it brings back its sixth sense in life.May God bless him.
                                                                                                              To be continued.....

Monday, October 7, 2013


   The whole village became awestruck.The news they heard was really an unbelievable one.The news related to  that positive vibrant house was really a bitter news.Bitter to its core.The house was on the one of the main entrance of the village.Very respectable house.In fact the house belongs to one of the lower middle class family of the village.But the family Heads were very rich in earning respect.They were not selfish.They were not self-centered.We can call them as humans,the word which really means the value.

   As their house was situated in the place which was the threshold of the village they used to have so many variety of visitors.The visitors themselves were willing to visit this house.The fond welcome of the family Heads Gurunathan  and Subha Meenakshi were really made for each other category couple.Their hearty hospitality with their very simple available feast and their fond inquiry about the visitors health and about their family matters with real concern makes the visitors to disclose themselves with a good faith on this couple.The host and guest at the end of the conversation they used to resorted to a good deal of caring and sharing phenomena.

    Quite a number of village daughters-in-laws used to have their tips for good seedling,time for seedling,time for harvest from this house head lady  Subha Meenakshi.They were very comfortable with borrowing and sharing of the available seeds with this lady.As a spectator we can feel the respect the daughters-in-laws of the village were having towards this genuine lady.As this house had some cattle, the incoming and outgoing of the passers by of the village during summer was a common sight for chill and light sour butter milk.

   Now,the news spread over the village was that this family head Gurunathan was under severe stroke whose left side failed to show its presence.The whole village thronged their house with so many prayers towards God.They were not able to digest the stillness of Subha Meenakshi. She seemed to have drained all her energy.No consolation helped her to come back to her consciousness.One elderly person suggested,"Let them breath the atmosphere.Let us give them some time to be on their own.Now let Gurunathan get admitted in the town hospital.Hurry up."

   The couples have seven children.Three boys and four girls.They were staying with their youngest son who was an agriculturist.He had two children.The other two sons were government employees.The eldest one had quarters and was just 10 kilometers away from the village.He also had two children.The second son in the Army in a good rank and his life style was some what in higher position.His frequent transfers all over the country never let him to pay frequent visits to his family.He and his wife were working couples.They also had two children.

   The daughters of the family were fortunately destined to persons who were government employees so that their families could be a manageable one with their guaranteed regular income..Even though they were destined to the same below middle class family they could  manage to keep their family with good sort of satisfaction.The sons and daughters took after their parents in all general basic manners.The village thought so.

   The bitter news had been passed on to the other children of the family and by evening except the son who was in the Army, all other grief stricken  children were there in the hospital.They tried their best to console each other with their own heavy hearts. Gurunathan was advised to stay in the hospital for one week.After taking so many tests, the kind doctor in soft and encouraging voice did his professional tactics with moral values.

   The doctor called the whole family members including the son who was in the army who arrived on the fourth day of his father's hospitalization."Look this good man's beloved family members!This stroke is not serious as you think.This depends on Mr. Gurunathan's will power and the whole hearten support from his beloved family through unconditional love which can bring miracles into his body.This will help him in greater way to come back to normalcy in shorter period.Remember love is nothing but it is the feeling of the God.When love and God work together we can make a thing positive.Tomorrow Mr. Gurunathan will get discharged.God may give you all strength .

   The wise doctor gave individual suggestion to Gurunathan,"Mr.Gurunathan you seemed to be a good  and active family head.As long as our body has life we have to face different difficulties like this.Treat this as the seasonal changes but try to retain some spring in your every season.Your family seems to be good.As long as our health and mind have a good rapport with themselves we can see good in everything.To keep them in good rapport we must be sensible..Fortunately your stroke is not serious one.A good and active family head should not be bed ridden.So develop your will power by pleading God to be by your side, try to start doing your own work your self from the day one..Like eating,walking, reading, using rest room and so on.Many times I noticed in my medical service that' the village Back Bones' are much stronger than the' city back bones'.God may give you all strength".

   Subha Meenakshi made up her mind.She took the Doctor's version as God's version.With her all smiling face and encouraging interactions Gurunathan started feeling easy.He tried his best to be on its own.The whole village depending on its leisure hours came to give him and wife a good  company with some encouraging stories.

   All children settled in their places as usual,and their frequent visits to their parents with their families,help the house to be  in a festive mood.Every one of the family including the village thought so.But here in the youngest son's family a different script for different story was going on.The youngest daughter- in-law was totally not comfortable with the present scenario.Till now, her good and active parents-in-law were responsible for all in and out activities.Now she and her husband had to take all these responsibilities.More over the frequent visits of the relatives and village seemed to be an utter disturbance for her privacy.As her mind and body  were not having  a good rapport with them selves she discovered and invented only bad things in every movements of the family.Forgetting the all sorts of the receiving help from all family members and the village,she started creating negative ripples in that nice well going family.

   One evening, while she was serving coffee to the whole family members along with some of the village people she burst out her wrath."Look my dear family members!As an agriculturist wife, with no enjoyment in life,I am so tired of all these happenings.Till now, I did my best for this family.Now it is the turn of the other two sons who are government employees, to take the responsibility of their parents.I am not the only daughter-in-law to take all these responsibilities for life time".She got back into the kitchen followed by her husband.Her 'follow me' gesture to her husband gave a clear signal to the whole family that the youngest son of the family was of no use of lending his ears to any one of the family or to the village.

   The youngest daughter-in-law comfortably forgot the privileges she had been enjoying for all these periods for the same sake as a wife of an agriculturist..When partition was done,leaving some parts of land for the family heads, the other two brothers settled their youngest brother's major part of the dues.The second son, as he was in the Army, gave his share of land to his younger brother.Elder brother also gave some part of his land to his youngest brother..All the village taxes had been paid by the second son.The vegetables cultivated from  these four shares of land,including her own,were comfortably transported to her birth place very often.The family heads  were very wise to over look it.

   Everything was over.The parents side elders and some village wise people tried their best to make this issue  not a big issue,they turned towards the eldest son,"Big boy! as the eldest son of the your family,you are in  a position to take care of your parents and your whole family.So don't let it be an issue.There are two options for you.As your working place is very nearby, you can be with your parents with your family at our village itself or take your parents to your place."

   Giving everyone an inexplicable shock,this Big boy politely refused by saying,"I am so sorry I am not in a position to either being with them in the village or taking them with me.Let us not take it as a big issue.Every problem has its own solution.Within few days every thing will be on its track.Now it is the time for my family to catch the bus.See you."He retreated comfortably with no sense of his sixth sense. He didn't seem to have realized that this was the time for him and his wife to be in his parents position.

 The discomfort prevailed over there was at once put an end by the second son.He tried to simplify the problem created by his elder and younger brothers,"Dad and mom! there is nothing to worry.They seemed to have their own problems.But I have no problems.For a change why don"t you people come with me and try to enjoy the city life.In our quarters we are having some  kitchen garden.You people enjoy growing vegetables by enjoying the company of your grand children.More over the hospital facilities are far more better in the city compared to our village.There are more chances for dad to come back to normalcy quickly.We will take you to the so many fascinating city places which you failed to visit all these years due to your tight schedule.Now it is the time to relax.We shall enjoy to the core.We shall visit our village very often by creating opportunities for it".He gestured to his wife and children to extend their warm invitation towards the family head.

   Ten years passed.Nothing had stopped for none.The two brothers never tried to even the matters all these years.In the beginning the sisters did their best to bridge their parents  and these two brothers.But they were not at all ready to budge.All in vain.The net result was war of words.Naturally the sisters visit counts to their birth place drastically came down.The brothers seemed to have not bothered about this.No inquiry about their parents.No visits.Nothing.

   Now the time came for the elder brother to invite his parents and his brothers' families for his daughter's marriage.He came to his younger brother's place along with the youngest brother.Their life partners were absent.When they entered the house,the second daughter of the family Durga was there.She was 'Call a spade a spade' type.

    Durga invited them with all smiles.The brothers with no sign of guilt simply disclosed the matter.The family heads didn't know what to say. Durga started'"Oh my dear brothers! so you have come to invite our parents for our family's grand occasion.Still you seem to have no sense of your present condition.Very pathetic.Our parents taught us that the prime thing we have to do is to earn respect for our age.Then every treasure would follow it.They are the living examples for us.Do you people know? All these ten years, how many peoples from our own village and our own relation did visit our parents and blessed our brother's family.Still they are on this sharing and caring policy through various measures.All these are the results of our parents self owned respect."

   There was a pin drop silence.Durga continued."You ruined your own esteem  and your family esteem.You people failed to balance your position.It is universal law that a family's balance depends on the clarity of the mind of the men in the family.As  ladies are from the other family, they have no idea about our own family's  value based back ground.You men are to treat your wife and your children as one eye and your parents and brothers and sisters as other eye.When both eyes are able to co-ordinate with each other only we can see the clear and good side of the family clearly.And the things which bring no good to our family could be analysed and sorted out properly.As long as you men are not  at all ready in doing your prominent roll as a good coordinator for the sake of a family prestige,every family would undergo the same bitter experience of our family"

   Durga stopped for a second.Still no more response from her brothers' side.Passive listening is a good gesture of reformation.Durga felt.She started again,"As for as I am concerned, with the available resources our family have, we all must be as happy as we can.And with that same available resources we can fulfill  every one of the family members dream when we are ready to be together.I have a strong belief in it.Now the ball is in your court.If you are really interested in our whole family's presence in this grand occasion,go back.Being a good coordinator bring your whole family to invite our parents with all respect.Otherwise,there is  no meaning in celebrating a grand family occasion in the absence of your own blood and soul.

   With no words to utter the brothers left the place.There was a ray of hope in the family.





Friday, September 20, 2013



   The village Thambatty was getting ready for it's annual festival celebrated every year in the name of Goddess of Rain.It could be taken as a 'Thanks Giving Day' for her mercy for the sufficient rain in the previous year as well as a day for worshiping the Rain Goddess for her mercy for the same sufficient rain for the forthcoming year to get a good harvest.

   The Rain Goddess Festival usually falls on the beginning of every summer.Usually most of the people who belong to that village whose working stations are outstations and are having school going children, regret for their inability to attend the festival.Because the Annual exams would usually start on the festival week every year.

    As the festival falls on the beginning of every summer, the financial condition of the village would have some tough time generally..Because almost all harvest would be completed.The village would manage to save some money from the previous harvest to celebrate this festival in a grand way.This festival has been celebrated for three days.The first day starts with the arrival of the relatives from all directions.They enjoy their colorful and fond meetings with their relatives and friends and cousins.The whole village becomes a chatter box.

   This is the festival where all paternal and maternal relatives especially the daughters and sons-in-laws of the village should be invited either personally or through phone calls depending on their distance, with due respect.They must be given a good importance with colorful grand dresses and with varieties of non-vegetarian meals  and with varieties of home made snacks.The village Rain Goddess goes round the village in a beautiful grand chariot in beautiful attire and ornaments.The village celebrates this festival with various colorful rituals and with its thundering hymn which goes rhythmically with various sorts and sounds of musical instruments.

   Chandru was also as every soul of the village getting ready to celebrate this festival.As usual he had a big confidence with small money.His relation circle is a limited one.He hadn't seen his mother.His birth certificate and his mother's death certificate fall on the same day, same month, same year.His father who still found it very difficult to come back to his real life even after he had a ten year old grand daughter.His limited words with his son and daughter-in-law and tried to maintain his dignity by doing his best to earn something through various sorts of odd jobs to help his family.He had a little land through which they could manage with some seasonal crops and vegetables.

   Chandru had a permanent job as a supervisor for a landlord who belonged to his own village.His loyalty and sincerity helped him to get a permanent job along with some sort of advance and bonus payments.Invariably two times in a year he had to stand in front of his master.One for his daughter to begin her every academic year and the next one is for this festival.

   He had five maternal uncles and four maternal aunts and three paternal aunts.His father was the only son to his  family.Both sides were very fond of Chandru's family and they had regular visits to his family. Chandru's wife was an angel. Chandru never invited his maternal side for this grand Rain Goddess festival due to his financial inability but his maternal side never made it as a matter.Many times he regretted for it.His paternal three aunts had their presence alone without their family to make Chandru comfortable.But this also  made  him very uncomfortable and the boundary of his regret would be pushed back further.

   This year he met his paternal aunts in a family function which was one week ahead of this festival.His  aunts told him,"Chandru you needn't come to our place to invite us for this festival.We will be there".But one of his paternal cousin Lakshmi who was two years older than Chandru but the best child-hood playmate was also a tease mate.The whole family knew about their cousin bond.Her only hobby  till the date is to tease Chandru every now and then.Really she has a talent for that.She was married to a land lord whose family is a big joint family and are very proud of their Daughter-in-law's diplomatic family management with so many skills.She was in the good books of both her birth place village and her destined place village.Some times Chandru wondered where did she get all these shrewdness.

   At that family function Lakshmi as usual started teasing Chandru,"Hi dude don't try to save your bus fare by not inviting your respectful aunts personally.Personal invitation is more important you know".The next word from her side was, Chandru felt as if a real bomb was hurled at him."We other cousins also decided to come for the festival  even though you have no manners to invite us".Watching his shocking expression she   with a teasing smile,"Come on Dude ! don't be afraid of anything.We can manage".Then she turned towards the crowd and announced,"Who are all able to come for our maternal Uncle's village festival, they all are cordially invited.Please take it as a personal invitation.On behalf of our beloved Chandru I am inviting you all".Her declaration made everyone very happy as they knew Lakshmi's talent of building castle in the air.

   The eve of the festival came.From the morning itself, the perplexed Chandru didn't know what to do.He already got Rs 5,000  as advance for the festival .Again he really didn't want to go back to get more advance money from his master.Watching his hyper tension,his wife and his father tried their best to bring him back to normalcy.From the afternoon itself the village started receiving its honorable guests. Chandru made up his mind."Let us face the things as they come".He decided.

   In the evening two bullock-carts halted in front of Chandru's house. Chandru's family came out to receive. To their surprise one cart was with full of  vegetables and poultry farm along with two big bags of rice and the other one was packed with his nears and dears.Seeing his relation in one cart, Chandru was so happy but noticing the ingredients in the other cart, his face fell down.

   But Lakshmi got down as the Chief of the whole group,"Hi Dude we all are so tired.Ask Meena(Chandru's wife) to prepare some coffee".ordering every one to get down from the cart and also let the ingredients to march towards the store room of the her uncle's house with the help of every visitor.The next moment the house was with full of all sorts of hustle bustle made by the elders along with the children.When Chandru looked at his father,to his great surprise,his father seemed as stopped worrying and started enjoying his every visitors's company just as a child.After a very long period Chandru was so pleased to see his father's exciting and beaming face.He turned to his wife.They made their decision."For the sake of his father's happiness they we will try to make our best to manage everything in such a way".

   After arranging everything in the store room,Lakshmi came into kitchen and raised her voice as if she was the confirmed Chief of the visitors."What about a cup of coffee for everyone.I have ordered already".

    "This is not the Hotel you dumbo!This is your Uncle's house".Chandru bellowed."By the way you have come for a festival to celebrate with us.You are not going for any picnic.Then why this much ingredients you have brought with you".he demanded. Lakshmi could sense some feelings of hurt in his voice but she acted as if she didn't notice it. She retorted,"You fool!Don't you know this is the curtsy for every one to have something with them as a visitor.As we are in good numbers every one has their own share."

   Meena,forgetting to prepare coffee for the visitors, thoroughly enjoying this tussle between these close friendly cousins which is the usual scenario in every get together occasion.Nearly fifty members arrived along  with their 11 little children.When Meena entered the kitchen Lakshmi almost made coffee ready.

   Meena,"Hi sis! I am sorry for being late.Did you find out the milk,coffee powder and sugar?"."No problem.I helped myself.Come on ,serve them with coffee" saying so Lakshmi acted as fast as wind. She went to the store room and sorted out the vegetables and other ingredients with her Ballet dancing fingers and collected them in a big basket and came out.There every one was having their coffee.

   She spread a big old carpet on the floor,"Here every body after having your coffee and snacks come and sit here.You people do this and you this and you kids come this side and your work is this and that and I will give you thirty minutes to complete the task.She turned other side and called some visitors,"You all come with me.".Lakshmi got into the kitchen again.

   Depending on their age and ability almost all guests and hosts have their own set of works. The process of preparing dinner was going on with jet speed for nearly 65 members of the family.The process was heaven,just like heaven.The guests and hosts kept on sharing their memories from child hood to this date with all sorts of feelings and exposures.In a minute it seemed as breeze.The next followed by thunderous laughter.Then some sort of accusation.Then some sort of encouragement.Mixed feelings with mixed acts kept on bursting out in the all directions.

   The children's joy found no bounds.No reading and no writing and therefore no scolding.They were free birds.The whole village eyes were at Chandru's house.Their coming and going  and inviting the guests to their houses, really were gala moments.

   Lakshmi acted as a ring master and let her presence in and out of the house and got the dinner ready at 9.The next one hour was an another heavenly experience of tasting the various sorts of delicious food with various sorts of food related fun.One of the guest exclaimed,"Ha! what a taste? what a taste?.I have no idea whether you people really prepared such a delicious food or as we all having our dinner together as a big joint family does it seem as a delicious dinner.After hearing this doubt every one had the same confusion.

    After having dinner,The group made' after dinner chat' for a while and were ready to settle down.By the time with the help of others Lakshmi made the bed for every one with the available facility.But she didn't have her dinner yet.Watching all these miracles what Lakshmi brought with her,Chandru melted to a core.He came forward and shouted at Lakshmi,"Hi Dumbo! enough is enough.Don't act as you are the only busiest woman in the whole world who is having no time to have your dinner.Come on .Sit in front of your plate.I will serve you".

   Chandru placed a plate in front of her and made her to sit down.While washing her hand,Lakshmi retorted by looking at Meena,"See Meena,If the same dumbo,If he really had had that good concern,he should have served my dinner first just before his dinner.You see! your darling husband is second to none in super acting"." more talking".Chandru bellowed at her and started serving her favorite dishes in order with all fondness.Every body laughed at them.He whispered at her,"Lakshmi! You are an angel."

   The next day was the real festival day.Very early morning,Lakshmi arranged some hot water for some senior citizens at home and she took the rest of the family to the nearby river to take bath.The children who knew the swimming let their nose high up in the air.Lakshmi brought them back to the earth by a her good folded hand shot on their head.Then she helped the other children to learn swimming who longed to learn swimming.Her frequent comments and requests made the whole family ready after their break fast to visit the Rain Goddess temple first and to the other temples in the village and to the whole village.

   After noon majority of the family didn't turn up to have their lunch.Their bellies were fed with all sorts of delicious snacks from house after house of the village.Wherever they did visit they were compelled to have something as a friendly gesture.Many tried to avoid many snacks, even though they were their favorite dishes.They were very conscious to keep their stomach in order, to enjoy their non-vegetarian dinner varieties thoroughly.Evening,the Rain goddess idol was decorated with colorful attires and with glittering gold ornaments and she was raised to her throne in a big chariot and she was ready to go round the village to offer her blessings to the whole village.This is the high light of the festival.Her temple and her chariot were decorated with highly colorful flowers and highly colorful lights and with extra fittings of big and colorful decorated hangings,all the sides of the chariot.

     When the sun set,The gala started.The whole village's worship offerings to the Goddess of Rain came to an end by this time.The different sorts of hymen go nice with the different sort of musical instruments.The spectators had their usual doubt whether the heaven would be like this.The Rain Goddess started her journey and the whole village was very ready to get her blessings.What a beautiful give and take policy.Morning the village would give their worships to her.Evening they would take her blessings.

    Every house had their own set of expert chefs in the preparation of Non-vegetarian variety dishes.At Chandru's residence the same process was going on under the supervision of Lakshmi.The poultry the guests brought with them, all vanished in the air. After the heavy delicious dinner every one felt that the day ended very fast.

   The next day,the whole village was busy preparing with their variety of delicious home made snacks after their break fast.These snack should be offered to the guests as a send off gesture. Chandru was so sad when he thought about the departure of the guests especially his friendly cousin Lakshmi.He was staring at her who was very busy in preparing snacks.His wife Meena felt his pain.She prayed God for the same boon every year.She also thought about the various opportunities to earn more money to celebrate this festival on their own account without disturbing the guests.Let them be as guests alone to enjoy everything to a core.She gave a understanding pat to her husband.She now started thinking about her own cousins to revive the love bond.

     In the evening every one was getting ready.Their bullock carts were waiting promptly.Still the guests and hosts seemed to have a lot to share.A sort of  satisfaction with happiness could be felt  by every one. Chandru's father held Lakshmi's hand "My child! you made a way to vent out all my grief.You have taught me that let bygones be bygones and let us be happy with the available resources.And you have shown me what a true relation is and the way of revival of the relation.My angel I will never never forget your great and grand help.For me you are my mother.At this moment I am the happiest man in the whole world I feel."Tears streaming on his cheeks.All his agony seemed to be washed away.

    In a moment there was a silent.Then every one at a time started pouring their thanks to Lakshmi for all the opportunity Lakshmi created for them  to understand what a love bond is. Chandru came forward and stood in front of Lakshmi,"Our angel you have made our festival a festival.I have no idea how to thank you.God may bless you for everything Dumbo".His eyes were welled up.He continued,"By the by I had an advanced money of 5,000 as a whole.You didn't let me to spend anything for anything in this festival.Have this money and share among yourself in one or the other way as festival gift.

     The whole village gave a warm send off to those two bullock carts which were very proud of their angel Lakshmi.