Come, Start and Complete

   It was Sunday. Kishore was busy with the that day's News paper with so many  subscriptions on various matters.Ah! what a day  a Sunday.You can stick to your bed to some more time as if it really belongs to you.After up from the bed lazily, a hot cup of coffee would be waiting for you with the warm copy of that day's Newspaper with colorful subscriptions.Holding the hot coffee in one hand while the other hand would be busy with the brand new News paper,Oh! it is so nice..The aroma of coffee as well as the News paper, really it couldn't be explained.It should be experienced.

   But you see,the Sunday would be the special day for the every family member expect the head of the family lady which seems to be a day consuming more of her time in the name of preparation of some special meals or to be ready to receive the visitors.Everyone would be having their breakfast in different times depending on their "Wake up bright time".In the end of the day she seems to be worn out.Even though all these difficulties are there she would be also expecting the Sunday with some excitement.The special meals she would prepare for her family with the help of all family members would bring that much satisfaction to her.The exclamations from the rest of the family on the taste of the special meals would bring her all happiness.She would enjoy it.More over she could find some extra time to be with her family.So good indeed.

   Around ten thirty Ashok,the elder son of eleven years old and the daughter Meenu of six years old lazily got up from the bed and came towards their father, comfortably seated on his lap.Seeing their lovely children,Kishore kept the News paper aside and with that much love and pride he made them sit on his lap comfortably."Good morning and good day dad".This is the usual cheerful greetings from his children which was taught to them at their early stage."Good morning and good day to you both.Have you had good night sleep?"Kishore asked fondly.Then he turned his head towards the kitchen,"Shree!You see Ashok and Meenu got up.Make coffee ready for them".

   Shreenithi,,Kishore's Sweet heart,came out of the kitchen and hugged her children with the same warm greetings and asked about their good night sleep just as Kishore. The children were made to understand that a "Good night" sleep is very important as good diet."We had a very good night sleep Mom"answered Ashok and turned to his lovely sister "Didn't we Meenu?" for more conformation. Meenu approved it with her all smile by nodding her head up and down.Then they looked around "Where are our loving grand parents?.They have promised to take us to the Circus which has come  to our town last week"."They have been to the hospital to see our family friend Grandpa Nathan.Yesterday evening we visited him you know".Meenu answered."As you said,we prayed for his quick recovery Mom!".Ashok told."That is good".Giving a fond pat to them Shree was about to turn to the kitchen.

   Kishore started."Dad and mom's little sweet friends!Now it is your turn to start and complete your every task one by one elegantly by consulting the time.Hope it is all right with you". Meenu with little more laziness."Dad and Mom as it is Sunday would you people please give us some more time to relax a bit?".There was an earnestness  seen in her tone."All right! five minutes granted as an additional relaxing time".With some not approving voice Shree turned to her son,"Ashok I told you people umpteen times,that how important our first meal of the day, break fast is.Help your sister to clean her teeth and bring her to the dining table soon.I will lay the table.Myself,Dad and our grand parents finished having our breakfast.You people come soon".Making the children a bit faster,Shree headed towards the kitchen.

   Ashok persuaded his reluctant sister to get her tooth cleaned,"Look Meenu!as our parents and grand parents say we are to start and complete our every task in such a way. So as morning chores.Otherwise it would bring many sorts of  troubles for every one.My angel sister know!Cleaning our teeth should not take more than two minutes.Concentrate!".Within thirty minutes the kids finished doing their morning chores with the help of their parents. Kishore and Shree in one voice,"You angels came,started and completed your morning chores in stipulated holiday time.That is good;Keep it up".The kids seemed to be very satisfied with their timely responsibility.The real appreciation boosts them very well.

   Then the children allowed to play for one hour and thirty minutes to play with their friends for some time some indoor games and some time with some outdoor games.Some time at their home and some time with their friends at their place.Both Ashok and Meenu were careful about their basic manners which were very often being reminded by their own family members.They never set their foot on the couch or bed at their own place as well as at others residence.If they want to play with their friends's play things they seek permission from their friends and if need arises from their parents for that particular plaything.They kept reminding their friends also about these basic manners by saying,"Our parents say so;our grandparents say so".This brought their friends parents to be under dilemma whether they failed to teach their children about these basic manners which would bring disgrace to their children along with themselves.So naturally they were under the impression to analyse themselves and about their children regarding these basic manners.

     Ashok and Meenu dispose their dresses,uniforms and socks in the washing place if they need to be washed.They maintained their bookshelf in such a way that there would be no difficulties in arranging their books before their bed time.While playing with the play things they use the same strategy of come start and complete.i.e.They let every plaything to go back to its own place after playing with the things get over.When they receive guests they greet them with all smiles.If they bring children with them, Ashok and Meenu would give them a good and comfortable company by all means.They learned to start and complete strategy for each and every task in the stipulated time whether it is big or small. Before they go to bed they would check their next day schedule and how long that day schedule would take to get completed.Gradually they kept upgrading themselves with time management and with some perfection in completing their task.

   Indirectly the children taught back to their parents and grand parents from whom they kept learning every thing.If they say "Oh my God! I forgot to do this or that".the children asked them back,"You elder people always remind us to start and complete one task after other according to their priorities in the assumed stipulated time but you elders seem to be not serious with it.I think we children seem to be good at this timely work but you elders seem to be not bothering about this at all".This statement made the elders so uncomfortable so they would try to be on their track by helping each other as a personal assistant to remind the things to start and complete.They realized that mere preaching doesn't hold any water when concerned with children,minding  their own practice would help them to be in the good books of their children.

     Evening Ashok and Meena finished doing their home work with the help of their parents and grand parents as fast as possible but with the logical understanding about the concept of home work.They arranged their books there itself according to the next day's time table.Then they were all marching towards the exciting  Circus tent.Definitely, the whole family members' emphasis on"Start and complete the task" strategy has its own real value.

                 IN FACT, NOT ONLY CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME.

                 EVERY THING BEGINS AT HOME.

    

WARM WORDS OR WAR OF WORDS

  A.   Analyze yourself whether  you are a person with warm words or a person with war of words. Because it is a known fact that warmth brings warmth and war brings war.

  B.     Begin your day with words which should always must start with a lower pitch with all  living things and non-living things.i.e no shouting and no dragging.

  C.     Cleaning helps us to find our lost treasure.So clean up your mind with spiritual thoughts or some positive thoughts or with some happy moments.Garbage always brings bad odour which in turn lead to war of words.Every one hour check the state of your mind and you can find out that a smooth replacement would be on its process.Never forget it to practice it for minimum one week. Then the powerful and loyal mind would understand its role and it starts look into the matter.i.e it always reminds you to be with warm words with all living and non-living things.

   D.    Do something productively for every half-an-hour no matter whether it is five minutes project or five seconds project and no matter whether you are in your working place or at your home sweet home. Example:Reminding your friends about the important office meeting or birth day parties of your family personalities or your colleague or your friends or collect the forgotten details which your boss asked you to submit as early as possible or try to find some solutions for some official problems or for some family problems which need your immediate attention.

           .i.e Your mind would be with full of beans. Remember" The idle mind is devil's workshop".In this process you do give importance to the persons at home as well as in your working place which in turn you will be in the good books of many persons which would bring you a feeling of safe and security.  Hence no rooms for war of words.

     E.    Eat properly.Make sure whether your every meals in a day is a nutritious one with vegetables and fruits and with sufficient water.High nutritious meals have a good rapport with warm words.

     F.     Find some space and time for your visit to your own specialized area everyday.Ten minutes visit every day is far more better than one hour visit in a week.Practice in your specialized area brings warm words of appreciation and encouragement and they help you to build your confidence.No place and time for war of words.

     G.    God is omnipresent and omnipotent.Believe in God.He never fails to answer a faithful prayer.So pray to him to monitor your every day schedule.Then it is His responsibility to make your day with an atmosphere which would bring warm words not with war of words.The only thing you have to do is deserve His monitor.

     H.    Hot drinks always create war of words.

     I.     Itching leads war of words.Let bygones be bygones.No more itching

     J.     Jolly going avoids war of words.It can be done only by  regular practice.Make sure  nothing is wrong from your side.Then make things as simple as possible by saying" for this prevailing atmosphere it seems good to me.If you have different opinion you try for it".Just leave the matter to take its own course.Simplicity always being in the first row pushing the complications back.

    K.     King you are! Assume you are the King of your own territory.So naturally your interaction with the King of other territory would be as smart as possible.Even if you assume others as subjects of yours no problem.A good king's first duty is the  welfare if his subjects.So only warm words have to be placed there.

     L.     Listening is the best tool to generate warm words.Honestly speaking, no one is ready to lend their ears to anyone else but they desperately expect others to lend their ears to oneself.This suppresses the warm words to a great extent and lead to war of words.So with real interest and with real editing capability try to show some real concern to your close circle with their day-to-day activities.This naturally brings warms words.

    M.     Mind  the Gratitude always.Recognize the timely help whether it was big or small it was the help that came in time.Recognize the respective persons  with real concern.It gives room only to warm  words.

     N.      No to  telling tales and keep the Gossip mongers at an arm distance.This is the healthy way to avoid war of words.

     O.      One man army is the best policy.It means you are a reliable personality with all soft skills.So no chance to war of words.Chances are there for warm words only.

      P.      Positive approach always brings warm words.

      Q.     Quick observation of the situation helps us to avoid war of words.When we  are the person in a particular situation, to call a spade a spade, never hesitate to act so.This avoids war of words later.

      R.       Refresh yourself everyday with some mental and physical exercises.They will help you to get some control to avoid war of words.

      S.        Silence brings no regrets.Be wise enough to know when to be silent to avoid war of words.

      T.        Travelling is the best Mentor to teach us how blessed we are in one way or the other.So it leads us to thank God one way or the other forever which eliminates our war of words nature and helps us to resort to generate warm words.

      U.        Under estimation and over confidence are always dangerous.Try to understand many things are not as they seem.Our ignorance may lead to war of words.So be sensible to sense the power of any individual within our circle to avoid war of words.

       V.       Victory starts with warm words which help to build a good rapport with our respective field.

      W.        Winning throughout our life is so simple unless you are ready to kick back your Ego.When conflict is over,stand aside as a third person and analyse yourself genuinely.If your conscience pricks you that you are wrong, never never never hesitate to say the magic word "Sorry" genuinely.It brings miracles of hale and healthy warm words which helps us to shut the door of war of words.

      X.         Xchange Your good ideas with good intentions with your reliable circle.This healthy bond always generates warm words

      Y.         Yet  do we have another chance of birth with same relatives?No chance at all.So try to preserve the present relations with warm heart which are the birth place of the warm words.

      Z.          Zoooooooooooooom! This is the result of the warm words for a jolly ride throughout our life.

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THE MORE RESPONSIBILITY ,THE MORE RESPECT.PART-II

   Chandramohan was in his easy chair for a very long time with same position.The spiritual speech about oneself  kept on ringing his ears.It was 8:30.Time for dinner.Still he was in the same position.This time his mind was not fishing in the troubled water.But it was taking him along with it to the various places and the persons related  to the places with various mock conversations.The mind seemed a bit all right position.

   Chandramohan got up.He walked the paces for some time.He tried to grasp the message of that wise man,"Unless you are ready to reform yourself you can,t expect any reforms around you".After  some time he decided something."Why don't I put myself under this trial".The decision itself  seemed to persuade him to some strides forward.He checked the time.It was 9:10.At that time there was some knock at the door.Amused Chandramohan opened the door.It was Deena,his youngest lovely brother.With a broad smile,like a child he had some excitement with him."Thank God! thanks a lot.Now my brother is at his good side to taste his favorite dinner.Brother! you know everyday I bring your dinner.No need to knock the door. It was always wide open but you were in your closed circled position in your easy chair.I had to take the untouched dinner in the morning.But I consoled myself that my older brother would be old enough to have his breakfast and lunch at his school canteen.And now when I see your closed door,I feel that something is going to open within you".Indulging in the conversation,Deena laid the table and grasped his brother's hand and made him to sit on the dining chair.Wow!Mushroom rice with boiled egg gravy with a bowl of thick curd with some home made chips with a big glass of tomato soup.The hot and aroma twisted Chandramohan's taste buds and at the same time they started tasting something earlier that is nothing but his own tears.

   Chandramohan Pushed back the gulp formed in his throat and with no more fuss he started eating.Then and there his eyes met Deena's eyes which seemed to be moisturing.After a very long time Deena collected the empty bowls with all happiness and with a fond good night message he left.

   It was 10:30.A good nutritious  meal has the ability to make the mind sound enough. Chandramohan started examining the things around him.If his wife would be there at that time she would kill him.She is Mrs clean.His home sweet home became trash bitter trash.Being some trash himself, he was in the middle of all sorts of trash.Now no time for gaining  any energy and effort to clear the trashes off.He made some place to sleep and went to have a good night sleep only by God's grace.

   Really by God's grace,Chandramohan was able to have a good night sleep after a very long period.He could feel some serenity  in his mind like a stream.The stream mind was very clear to reflect himself.He got up and finished doing the morning chores.Then he started analyzing himself and his atmosphere.He seemed to be all right now.Bur his atmosphere was not an encouraging one.The words on television ringed its bell again in  his ears."If you are ready to reform yourself,everything start reforming around you;Unless you reform you can't expect any reforms around you".

   Chandramohan pondered for some time.A clear decision arose.i.e.The need of the hour is to" plan ".A decision was made to go along with the time.All" time related plans" work.It seemed to him.He calculated the available time that was in his hand.Thirty minutes more to get ready to catch the village bus to go to school.By that time he could segregate the trash to be disposable and to be washable and to be cleaned.In a wind speed he tried his best with the stipulated time.He whirled like a wind and finished the job when his own ten minutes were in his hand.He kept the disposable rash at his backyard in a big sack.The washable clothes had been rolled up in a big bed sheet and packed in a wardrobe near the washing machine.The cleaning seemed to take some time.

   Now his home sweet home looked much more better.If cleaning had been done  it would be meant for spic and span.But no time for it.All right it could be done in the evening. So quickly took a shower and got ready.While he was standing in front of the mirror,he had some observation about his attire and appearance.They didn't deserve any appreciation.Once he had the appearance reminded  an actor of his region.But now he himself could not tolerate his own appearance.He really didn't want the attire he wore.Some sort of uneasiness went through him."Oh my God! All these days have I been with this sort of attire in my working place?".He felt very bad.He checked the wardrobe again.He could find some intact pressed  dresses.Heaved a sigh of relief he changed his dress.While he was combing his hair in front of the mirror it also gave him a much more better reflection.With some satisfaction he locked the door behind him and left the home.But his bus had gone.Somehow he manged to reach his working place in time by hiring a cab.

   At school his colleague were watching him as if he was from some alien state.Overlooking it he wished every one heartily and entered his presence in the register in the Head Master's office and went back to his seat in the staffs' room.He checked his time table.No first period for him for any class.But he had no idea about the taken lessons for any class.He didn't maintain his own register for a long time.No meaning to go to any class with no knowledge of where to start.He checked his time.Fifteen minutes more for the every day prayer to begin to make every school day be a nice day.

   He darted to his classes to get the details.The students raised their eye brows with lot of surprise to see their own class teacher.No staggering and no stammering with no unbearable odour from their class teacher.They couldn't help admiring their class teacher's shrink less attire with his squared shoulders with amazing enthusiasm in his clear speech.Many times they were cursed by the other class teacher during combined classes due to his hectic schedule.Now they heaved a sigh of relief and were anxiously waiting for their own class teacher who turned a new leaf. Chandramohan could sense the excitement of the classes which seemed to be contagious.

    After the school prayer he was busy taking the notes  and hints for all his classes.His subject could understand his effort and energy, it co-operated very well.The subjects start stimulating  his brain to help him to get the gist of the matter.When the siren for the second period called Chandramohan as others,he collected his materials and headed towards his first class with full awareness.His colleague could sense his"Demanding Respect" strides.

   In the evening when Chandramohan got down from the bus as usual his lovely brother Deena was waiting for him.To his astonishment his brother was glittering.His steady paces with that enchanting smile made him very handsome.Deena was so happy and his happiness led him to dumbstruck. Chandramohan came towards his brother,"Deenu I am all right!I hope perfectly all right.I had a wonderful day to-day.Come on let us go.By the way could you lend your hand to help me in some cleaning now"."By all means brother.Can you feel my bubbling happiness to see my brother as clear stream?".Chandramohan hugged his brother as if Deena was a ten year old child."Deenu we have more to do with our loving cousin Arjun and I owe a lot
to you all including our beloved parents.I want to pay back you all.I have so many plans and strategies for the welfare of our beloved family.Are you ready to go with me?"."Again by all means my loving brother".They both had a hearty laughter.
 

 






    

THE MORE RESPONSIBILITY THE MORE RESPECT.

   In that village the particular house had its never ending story of distasteful one.The owner of that house is in one of a noble profession, the teaching.When considering the owner Chandramohan's  parents the house seemed to be a pathetic one..When considering the owner Chandramohan  himself it was disgusting.Simply saying he was a drunkard.Addicted  to the drinks he drove her wife mad and led her having her unwanted stay at her birth place very often with her two children.She  and her husband were a big head ache to the both her destined and birth place.It was the common sight of the village people to see the evening show of Chandramohan's uncivilized state which had been tried to be modest by his youngest brother Deena in helping his brother to reach his residence safely.

   The village people used wonder that being in one of a noble profession teaching,what,when,why and how he was teaching to the children.They were right.They got the answer. Chandramohan's addiction to drinks state didn't allow him to bring a good result in his subject Social Science even though he has the  ability to make the children to love that subject.So on punishment basis he had been transferred to many schools.So he was not able to co-ordinate with his teaching.i.e he was never teaching. The whole family's effort and his District Education Office's effort, all were in vain.

   Chandramohan is the eldest of his family He has two brothers and no sisters.He belongs to a respectable upper middle class family.His grand parents's respectful state has been still preserved by his parents and his youngest brother Deena. Chandramohan is a government teacher and his second brother who seems to have more brain among these three brothers who is working in a reputed University with so many higher Degrees in a metropolitan city.He comfortably settled in  his place with his family and had no idea about the matters related to his native place and his family.Very rarely he visits the village all alone and the reason he put forward for not taking his family is that they don't like the village atmosphere.They are very well with the highly sophisticated metropolitan city.

   On the contrary the youngest brother never turned his face towards higher education after completing his school level.But he never fails to learning.He loves nature.He is a good agriculturist.The whole village opinion is that Deena took after his grand parents and his parents as a whole.His parents are with him.They love to be with his family.Such a darling son to them.Some common and usual skirmishes come and go in his family from his wife side but Deena as his parents say God's son uses all his tactics to keep his family as a whole with evergreen pleasing state.He earns the same respect what his grand parents and his parents were and are still earning.He is very close to his paternal cousin Arjun who is the youngest son to his family and is of Deena's age who has three elder sisters.The village wonders whether Deena and Arjun are twins.

   On that day Deena was waiting for his brother Chandramohan to escort him to his home but by God's grace for one reason or the other Chandramohan got down from the evening bus as a clean slate.Seeing his brother Deena,"Deenu why are you waiting here?What is the matter?"asked Chandramohan with the elder brother's that concern.A wise elderly person who was standing there at that time with that similar concern,"You fool! you really haven't had any idea about this?.Your youngest lovely brother is as usual waiting here to escort his eldest drunkard brother  to his place".

   For a second there was utter silence. Chandramohan seemed to be frozen.Watching his eldest brother's state,Deena's polite request to that elderly person was,"Father please don't let me have any more pain".Then with all his smiling face,Deena grasped his eldest brother's hand,"Leave it bro,how was your day to -day?Still we all have faith on you.What about a cup of coffee with our parents?".Deena tried his best to ease the situation and started walking with his brother.

   With no more words Chandramohan accompanied Deena to Deena's place.With no idea about the actual situation,even though Deena tried for some diversion, his parents pointing Chandramohan, asked the same usual question,"Is he all right to-day Deenu?".Chandramohan could felt his parents regret about their own inability to help his son to come out of this all time pain experiencing state.

With no more words Chandramohan came back to his place.His mind was at  its full speed in fishing in the troubled water.He silently opened the door.The home seemed to be unusual silent.He settled in his easy chair and had no idea about which direction to move.Even though he has  his own beautiful family,being a drunkard, he himself let a big rift between himself and his family.With no idea, he switched on the television.His fingers with random speed kept on changing the channel.At one point, in one channel,one program related to the spiritual side was going on.

   There a person seemed to deserved to deliver that speech,"We people always blaming others for all events which lead to rifts and unhappiness in us and also in our nears and dears circle.When we analyse it from our healthy side we can find out the truth that we ourselves  in one way or the other are to be blamed for the same as we are not at all ready to take the due responsibilities. i.e there is always an escapism would be the chief reason for all these rifts and unhappiness.In other words we are not  at all ready to honor our roles.The readiness of taking more of your own responsibilities would lead to bring more respect which would bring you more passive listeners to keep a whole as a whole with no rifts with all happiness.Unless you are ready to reform yourself you can not expect any reforms around you."The speech was going on and on.But the above part would be enough for Chandramohan for some realization.

   On hearing this Chandramohan's mind stopped from the fishing in the troubled water.It takes some time to settle down.Then in a clear state it persuaded him for his self analysis.For the first time he was ready to weed his mistakes by asking himself,"Did I honor my roles as son,brother,husband,father and a teacher?"

   No doubt in it. Mr.Chandramohan conscience starts working and definitely it brings back its sixth sense in life.May God bless him.
                                                                                                              To be continued.....

5.BLOOD BALANCE.

   The whole village became awestruck.The news they heard was really an unbelievable one.The news related to  that positive vibrant house was really a bitter news.Bitter to its core.The house was on the one of the main entrance of the village.Very respectable house.In fact the house belongs to one of the lower middle class family of the village.But the family Heads were very rich in earning respect.They were not selfish.They were not self-centered.We can call them as humans,the word which really means the value.

   As their house was situated in the place which was the threshold of the village they used to have so many variety of visitors.The visitors themselves were willing to visit this house.The fond welcome of the family Heads Gurunathan  and Subha Meenakshi were really made for each other category couple.Their hearty hospitality with their very simple available feast and their fond inquiry about the visitors health and about their family matters with real concern makes the visitors to disclose themselves with a good faith on this couple.The host and guest at the end of the conversation they used to resorted to a good deal of caring and sharing phenomena.

    Quite a number of village daughters-in-laws used to have their tips for good seedling,time for seedling,time for harvest from this house head lady  Subha Meenakshi.They were very comfortable with borrowing and sharing of the available seeds with this lady.As a spectator we can feel the respect the daughters-in-laws of the village were having towards this genuine lady.As this house had some cattle, the incoming and outgoing of the passers by of the village during summer was a common sight for chill and light sour butter milk.

   Now,the news spread over the village was that this family head Gurunathan was under severe stroke whose left side failed to show its presence.The whole village thronged their house with so many prayers towards God.They were not able to digest the stillness of Subha Meenakshi. She seemed to have drained all her energy.No consolation helped her to come back to her consciousness.One elderly person suggested,"Let them breath the atmosphere.Let us give them some time to be on their own.Now let Gurunathan get admitted in the town hospital.Hurry up."

   The couples have seven children.Three boys and four girls.They were staying with their youngest son who was an agriculturist.He had two children.The other two sons were government employees.The eldest one had quarters and was just 10 kilometers away from the village.He also had two children.The second son in the Army in a good rank and his life style was some what in higher position.His frequent transfers all over the country never let him to pay frequent visits to his family.He and his wife were working couples.They also had two children.

   The daughters of the family were fortunately destined to persons who were government employees so that their families could be a manageable one with their guaranteed regular income..Even though they were destined to the same below middle class family they could  manage to keep their family with good sort of satisfaction.The sons and daughters took after their parents in all general basic manners.The village thought so.

   The bitter news had been passed on to the other children of the family and by evening except the son who was in the Army, all other grief stricken  children were there in the hospital.They tried their best to console each other with their own heavy hearts. Gurunathan was advised to stay in the hospital for one week.After taking so many tests, the kind doctor in soft and encouraging voice did his professional tactics with moral values.

   The doctor called the whole family members including the son who was in the army who arrived on the fourth day of his father's hospitalization."Look this good man's beloved family members!This stroke is not serious as you think.This depends on Mr. Gurunathan's will power and the whole hearten support from his beloved family through unconditional love which can bring miracles into his body.This will help him in greater way to come back to normalcy in shorter period.Remember love is nothing but it is the feeling of the God.When love and God work together we can make a thing positive.Tomorrow Mr. Gurunathan will get discharged.God may give you all strength .

   The wise doctor gave individual suggestion to Gurunathan,"Mr.Gurunathan you seemed to be a good  and active family head.As long as our body has life we have to face different difficulties like this.Treat this as the seasonal changes but try to retain some spring in your every season.Your family seems to be good.As long as our health and mind have a good rapport with themselves we can see good in everything.To keep them in good rapport we must be sensible..Fortunately your stroke is not serious one.A good and active family head should not be bed ridden.So develop your will power by pleading God to be by your side, try to start doing your own work your self from the day one..Like eating,walking, reading, using rest room and so on.Many times I noticed in my medical service that' the village Back Bones' are much stronger than the' city back bones'.God may give you all strength".

   Subha Meenakshi made up her mind.She took the Doctor's version as God's version.With her all smiling face and encouraging interactions Gurunathan started feeling easy.He tried his best to be on its own.The whole village depending on its leisure hours came to give him and wife a good  company with some encouraging stories.

   All children settled in their places as usual,and their frequent visits to their parents with their families,help the house to be  in a festive mood.Every one of the family including the village thought so.But here in the youngest son's family a different script for different story was going on.The youngest daughter- in-law was totally not comfortable with the present scenario.Till now, her good and active parents-in-law were responsible for all in and out activities.Now she and her husband had to take all these responsibilities.More over the frequent visits of the relatives and village seemed to be an utter disturbance for her privacy.As her mind and body  were not having  a good rapport with them selves she discovered and invented only bad things in every movements of the family.Forgetting the all sorts of the receiving help from all family members and the village,she started creating negative ripples in that nice well going family.

   One evening, while she was serving coffee to the whole family members along with some of the village people she burst out her wrath."Look my dear family members!As an agriculturist wife, with no enjoyment in life,I am so tired of all these happenings.Till now, I did my best for this family.Now it is the turn of the other two sons who are government employees, to take the responsibility of their parents.I am not the only daughter-in-law to take all these responsibilities for life time".She got back into the kitchen followed by her husband.Her 'follow me' gesture to her husband gave a clear signal to the whole family that the youngest son of the family was of no use of lending his ears to any one of the family or to the village.

   The youngest daughter-in-law comfortably forgot the privileges she had been enjoying for all these periods for the same sake as a wife of an agriculturist..When partition was done,leaving some parts of land for the family heads, the other two brothers settled their youngest brother's major part of the dues.The second son, as he was in the Army, gave his share of land to his younger brother.Elder brother also gave some part of his land to his youngest brother..All the village taxes had been paid by the second son.The vegetables cultivated from  these four shares of land,including her own,were comfortably transported to her birth place very often.The family heads  were very wise to over look it.

   Everything was over.The parents side elders and some village wise people tried their best to make this issue  not a big issue,they turned towards the eldest son,"Big boy! as the eldest son of the your family,you are in  a position to take care of your parents and your whole family.So don't let it be an issue.There are two options for you.As your working place is very nearby, you can be with your parents with your family at our village itself or take your parents to your place."

   Giving everyone an inexplicable shock,this Big boy politely refused by saying,"I am so sorry I am not in a position to either being with them in the village or taking them with me.Let us not take it as a big issue.Every problem has its own solution.Within few days every thing will be on its track.Now it is the time for my family to catch the bus.See you."He retreated comfortably with no sense of his sixth sense. He didn't seem to have realized that this was the time for him and his wife to be in his parents position.


 
 The discomfort prevailed over there was at once put an end by the second son.He tried to simplify the problem created by his elder and younger brothers,"Dad and mom! there is nothing to worry.They seemed to have their own problems.But I have no problems.For a change why don"t you people come with me and try to enjoy the city life.In our quarters we are having some  kitchen garden.You people enjoy growing vegetables by enjoying the company of your grand children.More over the hospital facilities are far more better in the city compared to our village.There are more chances for dad to come back to normalcy quickly.We will take you to the so many fascinating city places which you failed to visit all these years due to your tight schedule.Now it is the time to relax.We shall enjoy to the core.We shall visit our village very often by creating opportunities for it".He gestured to his wife and children to extend their warm invitation towards the family head.

   Ten years passed.Nothing had stopped for none.The two brothers never tried to even the matters all these years.In the beginning the sisters did their best to bridge their parents  and these two brothers.But they were not at all ready to budge.All in vain.The net result was war of words.Naturally the sisters visit counts to their birth place drastically came down.The brothers seemed to have not bothered about this.No inquiry about their parents.No visits.Nothing.

   Now the time came for the elder brother to invite his parents and his brothers' families for his daughter's marriage.He came to his younger brother's place along with the youngest brother.Their life partners were absent.When they entered the house,the second daughter of the family Durga was there.She was 'Call a spade a spade' type.

    Durga invited them with all smiles.The brothers with no sign of guilt simply disclosed the matter.The family heads didn't know what to say. Durga started'"Oh my dear brothers! so you have come to invite our parents for our family's grand occasion.Still you seem to have no sense of your present condition.Very pathetic.Our parents taught us that the prime thing we have to do is to earn respect for our age.Then every treasure would follow it.They are the living examples for us.Do you people know? All these ten years, how many peoples from our own village and our own relation did visit our parents and blessed our brother's family.Still they are on this sharing and caring policy through various measures.All these are the results of our parents self owned respect."

   There was a pin drop silence.Durga continued."You ruined your own esteem  and your family esteem.You people failed to balance your position.It is universal law that a family's balance depends on the clarity of the mind of the men in the family.As  ladies are from the other family, they have no idea about our own family's  value based back ground.You men are to treat your wife and your children as one eye and your parents and brothers and sisters as other eye.When both eyes are able to co-ordinate with each other only we can see the clear and good side of the family clearly.And the things which bring no good to our family could be analysed and sorted out properly.As long as you men are not  at all ready in doing your prominent roll as a good coordinator for the sake of a family prestige,every family would undergo the same bitter experience of our family"

   Durga stopped for a second.Still no more response from her brothers' side.Passive listening is a good gesture of reformation.Durga felt.She started again,"As for as I am concerned, with the available resources our family have, we all must be as happy as we can.And with that same available resources we can fulfill  every one of the family members dream when we are ready to be together.I have a strong belief in it.Now the ball is in your court.If you are really interested in our whole family's presence in this grand occasion,go back.Being a good coordinator bring your whole family to invite our parents with all respect.Otherwise,there is  no meaning in celebrating a grand family occasion in the absence of your own blood and soul.

   With no words to utter the brothers left the place.There was a ray of hope in the family.

 


   

 

   

4.RELATIONS TO BE RELATED.

RELATIONS MEANS TO BE RELATED.

   The village Thambatty was getting ready for it's annual festival celebrated every year in the name of Goddess of Rain.It could be taken as a 'Thanks Giving Day' for her mercy for the sufficient rain in the previous year as well as a day for worshiping the Rain Goddess for her mercy for the same sufficient rain for the forthcoming year to get a good harvest.

   The Rain Goddess Festival usually falls on the beginning of every summer.Usually most of the people who belong to that village whose working stations are outstations and are having school going children, regret for their inability to attend the festival.Because the Annual exams would usually start on the festival week every year.

    As the festival falls on the beginning of every summer, the financial condition of the village would have some tough time generally..Because almost all harvest would be completed.The village would manage to save some money from the previous harvest to celebrate this festival in a grand way.This festival has been celebrated for three days.The first day starts with the arrival of the relatives from all directions.They enjoy their colorful and fond meetings with their relatives and friends and cousins.The whole village becomes a chatter box.

   This is the festival where all paternal and maternal relatives especially the daughters and sons-in-laws of the village should be invited either personally or through phone calls depending on their distance, with due respect.They must be given a good importance with colorful grand dresses and with varieties of non-vegetarian meals  and with varieties of home made snacks.The village Rain Goddess goes round the village in a beautiful grand chariot in beautiful attire and ornaments.The village celebrates this festival with various colorful rituals and with its thundering hymn which goes rhythmically with various sorts and sounds of musical instruments.

   Chandru was also as every soul of the village getting ready to celebrate this festival.As usual he had a big confidence with small money.His relation circle is a limited one.He hadn't seen his mother.His birth certificate and his mother's death certificate fall on the same day, same month, same year.His father who still found it very difficult to come back to his real life even after he had a ten year old grand daughter.His limited words with his son and daughter-in-law and tried to maintain his dignity by doing his best to earn something through various sorts of odd jobs to help his family.He had a little land through which they could manage with some seasonal crops and vegetables.

   Chandru had a permanent job as a supervisor for a landlord who belonged to his own village.His loyalty and sincerity helped him to get a permanent job along with some sort of advance and bonus payments.Invariably two times in a year he had to stand in front of his master.One for his daughter to begin her every academic year and the next one is for this festival.

   He had five maternal uncles and four maternal aunts and three paternal aunts.His father was the only son to his  family.Both sides were very fond of Chandru's family and they had regular visits to his family. Chandru's wife was an angel. Chandru never invited his maternal side for this grand Rain Goddess festival due to his financial inability but his maternal side never made it as a matter.Many times he regretted for it.His paternal three aunts had their presence alone without their family to make Chandru comfortable.But this also  made  him very uncomfortable and the boundary of his regret would be pushed back further.

   This year he met his paternal aunts in a family function which was one week ahead of this festival.His  aunts told him,"Chandru you needn't come to our place to invite us for this festival.We will be there".But one of his paternal cousin Lakshmi who was two years older than Chandru but the best child-hood playmate was also a tease mate.The whole family knew about their cousin bond.Her only hobby  till the date is to tease Chandru every now and then.Really she has a talent for that.She was married to a land lord whose family is a big joint family and are very proud of their Daughter-in-law's diplomatic family management with so many skills.She was in the good books of both her birth place village and her destined place village.Some times Chandru wondered where did she get all these shrewdness.

   At that family function Lakshmi as usual started teasing Chandru,"Hi dude don't try to save your bus fare by not inviting your respectful aunts personally.Personal invitation is more important you know".The next word from her side was, Chandru felt as if a real bomb was hurled at him."We other cousins also decided to come for the festival  even though you have no manners to invite us".Watching his shocking expression she   with a teasing smile,"Come on Dude ! don't be afraid of anything.We can manage".Then she turned towards the crowd and announced,"Who are all able to come for our maternal Uncle's village festival, they all are cordially invited.Please take it as a personal invitation.On behalf of our beloved Chandru I am inviting you all".Her declaration made everyone very happy as they knew Lakshmi's talent of building castle in the air.

   The eve of the festival came.From the morning itself, the perplexed Chandru didn't know what to do.He already got Rs 5,000  as advance for the festival .Again he really didn't want to go back to get more advance money from his master.Watching his hyper tension,his wife and his father tried their best to bring him back to normalcy.From the afternoon itself the village started receiving its honorable guests. Chandru made up his mind."Let us face the things as they come".He decided.

   In the evening two bullock-carts halted in front of Chandru's house. Chandru's family came out to receive. To their surprise one cart was with full of  vegetables and poultry farm along with two big bags of rice and the other one was packed with his nears and dears.Seeing his relation in one cart, Chandru was so happy but noticing the ingredients in the other cart, his face fell down.

   But Lakshmi got down as the Chief of the whole group,"Hi Dude we all are so tired.Ask Meena(Chandru's wife) to prepare some coffee".ordering every one to get down from the cart and also let the ingredients to march towards the store room of the her uncle's house with the help of every visitor.The next moment the house was with full of all sorts of hustle bustle made by the elders along with the children.When Chandru looked at his father,to his great surprise,his father seemed as stopped worrying and started enjoying his every visitors's company just as a child.After a very long period Chandru was so pleased to see his father's exciting and beaming face.He turned to his wife.They made their decision."For the sake of his father's happiness they we will try to make our best to manage everything in such a way".

   After arranging everything in the store room,Lakshmi came into kitchen and raised her voice as if she was the confirmed Chief of the visitors."What about a cup of coffee for everyone.I have ordered already".

    "This is not the Hotel you dumbo!This is your Uncle's house".Chandru bellowed."By the way you have come for a festival to celebrate with us.You are not going for any picnic.Then why this much ingredients you have brought with you".he demanded. Lakshmi could sense some feelings of hurt in his voice but she acted as if she didn't notice it. She retorted,"You fool!Don't you know this is the curtsy for every one to have something with them as a visitor.As we are in good numbers every one has their own share."

   Meena,forgetting to prepare coffee for the visitors, thoroughly enjoying this tussle between these close friendly cousins which is the usual scenario in every get together occasion.Nearly fifty members arrived along  with their 11 little children.When Meena entered the kitchen Lakshmi almost made coffee ready.

   Meena,"Hi sis! I am sorry for being late.Did you find out the milk,coffee powder and sugar?"."No problem.I helped myself.Come on ,serve them with coffee" saying so Lakshmi acted as fast as wind. She went to the store room and sorted out the vegetables and other ingredients with her Ballet dancing fingers and collected them in a big basket and came out.There every one was having their coffee.

   She spread a big old carpet on the floor,"Here every body after having your coffee and snacks come and sit here.You people do this and you this and you kids come this side and your work is this and that and I will give you thirty minutes to complete the task.She turned other side and called some visitors,"You all come with me.".Lakshmi got into the kitchen again.

   Depending on their age and ability almost all guests and hosts have their own set of works. The process of preparing dinner was going on with jet speed for nearly 65 members of the family.The process was heaven,just like heaven.The guests and hosts kept on sharing their memories from child hood to this date with all sorts of feelings and exposures.In a minute it seemed as breeze.The next followed by thunderous laughter.Then some sort of accusation.Then some sort of encouragement.Mixed feelings with mixed acts kept on bursting out in the all directions.

   The children's joy found no bounds.No reading and no writing and therefore no scolding.They were free birds.The whole village eyes were at Chandru's house.Their coming and going  and inviting the guests to their houses, really were gala moments.

   Lakshmi acted as a ring master and let her presence in and out of the house and got the dinner ready at 9.The next one hour was an another heavenly experience of tasting the various sorts of delicious food with various sorts of food related fun.One of the guest exclaimed,"Ha! what a taste? what a taste?.I have no idea whether you people really prepared such a delicious food or as we all having our dinner together as a big joint family does it seem as a delicious dinner.After hearing this doubt every one had the same confusion.

    After having dinner,The group made' after dinner chat' for a while and were ready to settle down.By the time with the help of others Lakshmi made the bed for every one with the available facility.But she didn't have her dinner yet.Watching all these miracles what Lakshmi brought with her,Chandru melted to a core.He came forward and shouted at Lakshmi,"Hi Dumbo! enough is enough.Don't act as you are the only busiest woman in the whole world who is having no time to have your dinner.Come on .Sit in front of your plate.I will serve you".

   Chandru placed a plate in front of her and made her to sit down.While washing her hand,Lakshmi retorted by looking at Meena,"See Meena,If the same dumbo,If he really had had that good concern,he should have served my dinner first just before his dinner.You see! your darling husband is second to none in super acting"."Shhhhh.......no more talking".Chandru bellowed at her and started serving her favorite dishes in order with all fondness.Every body laughed at them.He whispered at her,"Lakshmi! You are an angel."

   The next day was the real festival day.Very early morning,Lakshmi arranged some hot water for some senior citizens at home and she took the rest of the family to the nearby river to take bath.The children who knew the swimming let their nose high up in the air.Lakshmi brought them back to the earth by a her good folded hand shot on their head.Then she helped the other children to learn swimming who longed to learn swimming.Her frequent comments and requests made the whole family ready after their break fast to visit the Rain Goddess temple first and to the other temples in the village and to the whole village.

   After noon majority of the family didn't turn up to have their lunch.Their bellies were fed with all sorts of delicious snacks from house after house of the village.Wherever they did visit they were compelled to have something as a friendly gesture.Many tried to avoid many snacks, even though they were their favorite dishes.They were very conscious to keep their stomach in order, to enjoy their non-vegetarian dinner varieties thoroughly.Evening,the Rain goddess idol was decorated with colorful attires and with glittering gold ornaments and she was raised to her throne in a big chariot and she was ready to go round the village to offer her blessings to the whole village.This is the high light of the festival.Her temple and her chariot were decorated with highly colorful flowers and highly colorful lights and with extra fittings of big and colorful decorated hangings,all the sides of the chariot.

     When the sun set,The gala started.The whole village's worship offerings to the Goddess of Rain came to an end by this time.The different sorts of hymen go nice with the different sort of musical instruments.The spectators had their usual doubt whether the heaven would be like this.The Rain Goddess started her journey and the whole village was very ready to get her blessings.What a beautiful give and take policy.Morning the village would give their worships to her.Evening they would take her blessings.

    Every house had their own set of expert chefs in the preparation of Non-vegetarian variety dishes.At Chandru's residence the same process was going on under the supervision of Lakshmi.The poultry the guests brought with them, all vanished in the air. After the heavy delicious dinner every one felt that the day ended very fast.

   The next day,the whole village was busy preparing with their variety of delicious home made snacks after their break fast.These snack should be offered to the guests as a send off gesture. Chandru was so sad when he thought about the departure of the guests especially his friendly cousin Lakshmi.He was staring at her who was very busy in preparing snacks.His wife Meena felt his pain.She prayed God for the same boon every year.She also thought about the various opportunities to earn more money to celebrate this festival on their own account without disturbing the guests.Let them be as guests alone to enjoy everything to a core.She gave a understanding pat to her husband.She now started thinking about her own cousins to revive the love bond.

     In the evening every one was getting ready.Their bullock carts were waiting promptly.Still the guests and hosts seemed to have a lot to share.A sort of  satisfaction with happiness could be felt  by every one. Chandru's father held Lakshmi's hand "My child! you made a way to vent out all my grief.You have taught me that let bygones be bygones and let us be happy with the available resources.And you have shown me what a true relation is and the way of revival of the relation.My angel I will never never forget your great and grand help.For me you are my mother.At this moment I am the happiest man in the whole world I feel."Tears streaming on his cheeks.All his agony seemed to be washed away.

    In a moment there was a silent.Then every one at a time started pouring their thanks to Lakshmi for all the opportunity Lakshmi created for them  to understand what a love bond is. Chandru came forward and stood in front of Lakshmi,"Our angel you have made our festival a festival.I have no idea how to thank you.God may bless you for everything Dumbo".His eyes were welled up.He continued,"By the by I had an advanced money of 5,000 as a whole.You didn't let me to spend anything for anything in this festival.Have this money and share among yourself in one or the other way as festival gift.

     The whole village gave a warm send off to those two bullock carts which were very proud of their angel Lakshmi.


  














    

BOND-COUSIN BOND

   Aravind was in his office.Evening session some meeting.Meetings are always having their own name under various heading but actually it seemed to be not a meeting but definitely a parting of one's energy' effort and time.After every meeting, Aravind had to do his best in bringing all his energy back to match the atmosphere  is really a Herculean task.

   Aravind had a severe head ache.The reason for this might be he replaced his actual lunch( with vegetables and curd) with some sort of snacks and with some cool drinks.His every meals like this seemed to be a mismatching with his growling stomach.But he had no time to think about all these nonsense.Yes, keeping a good rapport with meals is a utter nonsense for people like Aravind.

  He liked to have some coffee.At the same time he felt  a bit terrified.Because his parents were looking for a girl to make their son to win the made for each other competition.They seemed to be not bothering about their son's physical and mental health who was 1000 miles away from them.

   They were not only satisfied  with their bloated bank balance but also with the bloating of their real heads.(Here curtsy to their beloved son who earned a fruitful job with naturally handsome salary). They felt that their only duty was to look for another bloating girl I mean the girl must get bloated only with currency note from a bloating family with the same help of currency note to match their prince son's all pride.

   Aravind,after knowing his parents efforts,his worry was up on a tall tree.If he was not able to balance his work pressure with his family pleasure........Thinking itself brought some sort of giddiness to him.Now he preferred some good chat over coffee with some cheerful souls.He made a call to his one of the sensible cousins Kid.This 27 years old Kid seemed to be always  a kid.With that cheerful voice always had a capability to make things as simple as possible.In fact he was also  in a stress generating job.

   Aravind,"Hello Kid,as a kid I know you are doing well.For my sake could you spare some time for me".

   "Sparing".This is Kid.He could make any one to feel that the one himself a V.I.P

  " As usual I am not in myself.It seems as some symptoms  for some break downs.I have no strength to analyse it.Could you please share some Boost with me?please!".

   "why not?sharing.By the way, meet my paternal cousin who is from his on sight to our sight now".(It means, he returned to his mother land after successfully completing his Company'd Project in its foreign location.)You don't mind his name.Call him as Trist I mean Psychiatrist.But he is not a professional psychiatrist.But he has the ability to find out the root cause for any problem.In his opinion,if the real cause for any problem could be brought out, the solution for the problem would be an easy one. Would you like to have some chat with him?".

   "Er" a bit of pause from Aravind then he quickly on his track,"If it is all right with him I am also ready to be on his line".

    "He is an ever ready personality.Here you go.If it is all right with you, let him be in my shoes.Enjoy".

   Next moment,"Hello"a voice on the line which seemed to be very casual."Hello",Aravind continued as casual as possible,"I am Aravind"

    Chuckling voice "I know Mr Aravind. Kid told me.I am Alok. If you are comfortable with my professional name Trist,call by the same.By the way,If you are ready to take it in the right sense,I would like to say something.i.e.from your voice, I think you are always a hitting against something else or some one else personality it seems.I mean, no rest to your mind.Keeps on dashing with something..Am I correct".

   Aravind was dumbstruck."What is he saying?.Is it possible to judge a person just by a call or is he joking".

   " Hello are you there Mr.Aravind. Take it easy.Just say yes or no".Trist persuaded him with some enthusiastic voice.

   Aravind trying to be present in the present"Yes! Mr Trist ,sort of feelings like that.I think, my very often head-aches may be the symptoms for it."

   Pleased voice continued on the other side."I am very pleased with your exact and earlier identification.This is the first step of our positive effort to bring a good rapport between our mind and body.By the by why don,t we people now becoming friends drop that unnecessary word "Mr".

    "Why not?. Aravind was so comfortable with this unknown person.Taking some privilege and with some interest, Aravind asked,"Is there any remedy for it Trist?"

   "Don't treat it as remedy.Just a replacement.First step is, stop hitting against anything else.I mean,not to think of the same thing again and again.Even after your precautions if you get hit means stop there.Analyse what is the reason for this frequent collision.Mostly the reason would be the negative one.Like,your ignorance on something else,or your inability to say NO to certain things which really need a perfect NO or your inability to cope with your superiors or your inability to get your subordinates to cope with you and so on".After a pause,"Are you listening Aravind?".A doubt in Trist voice could be sensed.

   "By all means Trist. What ever you  say it seems to be so matching with me.I very badly want to know how to handle them.Please go ahead with your replacement tactics Trist."Aravind with all his ears.

   "Very simple.Give individual attention to the persons  with whom you have very often collision either in your working place or in your family. Analyzing their level with your level, give priority to respect or concern with good heart  and put forward your suggestion clearly to replace the problem which may lead some sort of production.To make yourself strong, you must get rid of your ignorance.So replace the ignorance with the relevant knowledge.So explore.Is it seemed to be an exhausting process Aravind".Asked Trist with some giggles.

   "Not at all.Not at all.It is quite interesting. No intermission please!".Trist seemed to be so pleased.For a positive task a good co-operation is a prime ingredient.He continued "In this process we can avoid or dodge so many unnecessary collision in the process of exploring the things we need".

   " It seems sensible".agreed Aravind.

   "Once we start getting the things we need, our self confidence is on its rise.We can face the things as they come as ever ready person.i.e In course of time we would have some planning strategy which would be followed by a good time management skill which would replace pressure with pleasure not only in our prestigious working place and also in our beloved family circle.What do you say my friend?.

   "What to say Dude?You have been helping me to get into your great replacement project.What I feel now is to revive the bond with our own some sensible cousins, seems to be meaningful.As we cousins both paternal and maternal we have some common familiar background which would help us in this replacement project.This is the need of the hour I feel.As a cousin Kid helped me a lot through his cousin through some confidential process.I liked it.Thank you very much Trist. Thanks a lot".Trist could sense Aravind's melting voice.

    Then in a sudden mocking voice and with all mocking respect,Aravind put forward his words."Hello!is this Dr. Trist's clinic?.Can I get an appointment with Dr.Trist?It would be better if I can get an appointment after 8 in the evening for only one hour for a good dinner in a three star hotel.This is the fee I am going to pay for him.If he brings his apprentice Dr Kid who referred him for me,I will be so grateful.Please! try to make it possible friend".

    "DONE" Trist voice bellowed with good laughter.