3.To be Patient.

   The word " patient " itself is being impatient when it comes across either one to one meeting or one to many meeting with us at this ongoing swift scenario.Because it thinks we are not at all ready to lend our ears to it.It often wonders," How can I cope with them with no co-operation from their side .Even when they are not at all ready to lend their ears to any simple matters,how can I get them with all their ears for any important matter.

   For any process,if we need a good out put means,we are never supposed to forget to add the ingredient " The Patience ".With no patience,no expected good output.So to bring the output more or less to the satisfactory level,we are to give good consideration to this great ingredient " The Patience ".All right now let me stop beating around the bush.Let me come to the point how to produce this great ingredient and how to stock it for our personal use.

   The first and the foremost step to produce this ingredient for our personal use is, we are to understand that we all are individuals,
irrespective of whatever relation it would be.So every individual has their own views. Depending on their own atmosphere,their views are also would be different.So we are not supposed to emphasise our views on others.In the same time our views and suggestions ( Either positive or negative ) could be put forward with good clarity by analysing the atmosphere,from our point of view.Let the ball in others' court.By doing this we do create an equal opportunity to others to put forward their own views with the same good clarity.So we are to listen to them.We can feel the majestic entry of the great patience.

   Another simple way to make the great patience to stay with us forever is,instead of treating living things into the non-living things,let us treat non-living things into the living things at home and at our working place.( Play grounds are exceptional )I mean not to drag chair and table and so on,not to throw the remote to the sofa,let not allow our children' merciless kicking of their play things. Let us encourage ourselves and our children that non-living things also have all feelings.So,we have to handle the non-living things with all care policy.Once we get ready to handle the non-living things with good care means,naturally we would be ready to handle the living things,I mean our dears and nears with all good care.Because they have real feelings.It seems to help us a lot to be in good terms with that great patience. 

   One of the great example for the greatness of this great patience is when we come across the great leader Gandhi's "Non- Violence " movement.Through this movement,this leader could bring the whole nation under one roof which comes under the category of unity in diversity,to achieve its Independence. This would live for ever with its impeccable foot prints in the inter-national political arena.

     Hence,when a nation can achieve its freedom through this great patience means,no doubt we individuals can achieve this freedom in our precious life in every stage,once we get its importance at proper stage.

Shun the Burden

   We all want to be happy. Indeed we all want to be very happy.It means we need no burden.But actually with or without our knowledge we have been allowing ourselves to get crushed under the known but unwanted burdens.

   What? Are we getting crushed under the known but the unwanted burdens? Yes! Indeed a big " YES ".Still we have no clue 
about this.Usually we are not interested in simple things with good clarity.We  are interested only in complicated things with no clarity.

     All right! Why this suspense unnecessarily which seems to be a burden?.We shall come to the point to point out those unwanted burdens which are all time obstacles to reach out our happiness.


   Those obstacles or the burdens are............Here we go.......

1.Angry, 

2.Envy,

3.Hatred.

    These three are inter related and these are the main burden trees from where many evil branches keep growing.The more they grow the more they drain the happiness at the meeting point,at the point physically as well as at the point mentally.

   So,how to get out of this? Just through the old,simple and elegant method through the way " Nip in the Bud ".We all know that saying is easier than doing.But by real good intention and by real good effort we can shun these burdens. Yes! all evil thoughts which definitely lead to evil acts are the real unbearable burdens.

   Hence,a simple way to shun these burdens is "Let us treat others as ' New ' and let us treat ourselves as ' Smart '.It means,when we meet the people every day,no matter whether they are known or unknown,whether related or not related,we just treat them as a new person and treat our meeting is the first meeting.Once this noble thought enter our mind, naturally,we start behaving as smart as possible with the new persons and naturally good recognition of each others' good qualities would start sprouting and there would be no room for these unwanted burdens.

   So this " Others New and we are Smart "  Policy seems to be good policy for ever.

    

 

      

Perspective Per Person. PPP or Triple ' P '

    Generally we people may come under three types.

1.Positive,

2.Negative,

3.Neutral i.e.not bothering about anything else or anyone else.


   When we talk about the Positive People they generally have some feelings with the respective persons and so they are able to connect themselves with the respective people and with their respective atmosphere.Their positive nature would help them to analyse the persons with their respective atmosphere in the positive way in all situations.So they are able to find out the reasons and at the same time they are able to try their best to find out the solutions to help them,if need arises. i.e. their sincere feelings on others,would make them to step into others' shoes.This situation would lead them to empathy as well as sympathy to bring up or to bring down the respective atmosphere to the balanced atmosphere.In other words,these people are called the ' Peace Makers '.They are block
builders.They are Bricks.
  

2 . Negative people;

   These type of people neither do anything productive nor let other 
people do something productive.They try their best to put barriers in all directions for any sort of productive ambitions.They are the bad ambassadors letting people being in a state of confusion.They let not people to be decision makers.As a result people related to them,tend to loose their self-confidence and let them always being in the square ' A '. And as a result the chances for any sort of up-going are made to be very remote by these sort of negative people.In the presence of these sort of people, peace cannot be achieved at any cost.And naturally no development can be seen. As peace and development are the two sides of the same coin,when there is no chance for the peace,definitely there will be no chance for development.So these type of people are called no doubt ' Peace Breakers '.


3.Neutral people;

   These people of the type that they neither appreciate nor depreciate unless for their own cause.They are very self-centred people.They never hesitate to full-fill their own needs by loosing their own dignity.So,naturally they are least bothered about other's dignity also.Hence,they give least importance to the very basic manners.These sort of self centred people have the talent to exploit and manipulate other people's good nature for their own sake tactically.They never come forward for any good general purpose.Even something is going on wrong in front of them,they wouldn't interfere it unless it directly effects them.So naturally,the wrong going are going on and on under their nose.They just mere spectators.These sort of people are ' Prime crime Developers '. 


   So,let us decide ourselves under which " P " we would like to be.


   

The Goodwill Messengers.

   Last week I visited our native place and stayed there with our relatives for one week.We are staying nearly hundred kilometers away from our native place on account of our occupation.I love to visit my native place as often as possible.Because every time of my visit some good things  are in array to add good memories on my account.

   The last visit happened to be the end of December.At our place there is a custom of performing special pujas for the sake of the heaven from mid December to mid January.It is a belief that during this particular period of these two months Gods and Goddesses do visit us to see the happy livelihood of their beautiful world which has been created by them with all their blessings and imagination to bring prosperity to their dreamland.So at that time,we must welcome them with our impeccable hearts through our spiritual customs,through which we are expressing our sincere thanks to them for their profuse blessings and in the same time expressing our sincere promise to them to do our best to  maintain the same prosperity in God's own beautiful dreamland.One such custom is,all through this one month,the male youngsters and male children of every village get up around 4;30 A.M.

    They commence their prayer at one of the temple in the village on the behalf of the whole village through ear candy chanting.And continue them by covering the whole village with their bare feet.Even though it is severe winter season,I believe that their strong good intention to make the heavenly bodies, happy to the core,who have visited our place, has given them that sort of physical and mental strength.During this period,to bring the chanters some comfort, the whole village serve them with some hot coffee with some hot eatables every day in turn.I enjoyed this visit thoroughly.

   Every time,when I have an opportunity to visit my native place,I am in the same strong belief that these strong and impeccable hearts,who are the practical and real visitors of God,and who are worshipping God on behalf of  all people who are living in and out of the native village, are the real messengers between the God and all sorts of people of their place in bringing goodwill to everyone.


   And one more thing I feel is that the inmates of the village are the chief sources in transferring the basic respective customs and respective culture of a respective clan to the generations after generations smoothly and elegantly.There the civilizations flourishes intact. 

BOND

" Bond itself expresses its cozy warm

Where every one's role is on its roam.

To elaborate its strength and security,

It is good to be one to feel its fraternity ".


  The other name for family is BONDING.If everyone of the family members wants to live in a cozy atmosphere,then definitely the  need of the hour is to feel their respective relations genuinely.Because


Feelings lead to humble recognitions;

Humble recognitions lead a fine and shine path;

Fine and shine paths lead to open our hearts;

Open hearts lead to recognize our current roles;

The current roles lead to our respective responsibilities;

Respective responsibilities bring people together;

People together lead to that spectacular caring and sharing;

Caring and sharing lead to bonds in all directions;

Bonds in all directions lead us to all sort of " S " and " S ";

It means " Strengths " and " Securities ".That means,

" All is well with all " to strengthen this " Cozy Bond ".


   Cozy bond is very expressive by our body language.Body language is absolutely vivid when it is
compared with its oral language.So one doesn't need to take any extra efforts to express one's respective love to the respective relations.Just feel the respective relations.Feel to the core.Then BONDS forms gradually,steadily and get strengthened automatically.As usual the first place to start to form this lovely bond is, no doubt our home;our " Sweet Home ".

Owe To Each Other

   In one way or the other we are in a position to owe to each other either directly or indirectly.But many times,we take many things granted,and comfortably forget the act of giving back happily in the same way or the possible,available way.This attitude is totally wrong and it leads to shrink our boundaries where a good
rapport among any sort of relationship surely get deteriorated.Deteriorating relationship is dangerous where
" Need in Indeed " act and fact would vanish in the thin air.Then everyone get isolated and the unwanted guest " Depression " would lead a permanent " Agony " in the life of every individual.

    To understand the concept " We Tend to Owe to Each Other " we shall go through the following parable.
In a village where there was no electricity.Every family in that village were using only earthen lamps as lights
to brighten their house after the Sun set.Usually in the villages,every house has a open front yard for various purposes.

   The front yard of one such house had been used by an alms seeker for quite a long time to have his meals and to sleep.The owner of that house was also quite generous as that of the whole village.So every night before the bedtime they had been waiting for the alms seeker to have his meals and to make his bed.It means they never closed the front door before the man settle down.It means, they had been helping the man to have the same light from the earthen lamp from their house to finish his cores.

     The time came for the alms seeker to leave this world to reach God's abode.He was waiting in front of the God along with the others to know his next project and the instructions from the God  for the related project.His turn came.God said," My dear friend!I am quite pleased to see you again after completing your assigned project successfully without giving any sort of wounds to any one else.I bless you.Here is your next project.i.e.Thanks giving project ".The man was with all his ears.The God continued, " As being an alms seeker in your previous incarnation and as you had been getting some place and light for your cores from that particular family in that village,I think now it is the time for you to pay back them ". The man was still in keen attention.

   " You may wonder how to pay back them? I will tell you.They have their own farm land.As the house owner became so old and their sons are far away from their home town on their occupation purpose,the owner of the land finds it difficult to find a servant to govern his far away farm land.And you are the person to guard that farm land as an invisible creature".

   The man happily accepted the God's project and came back to this world to pursue his duty as a thanks-
giving gesture.One day while he was on his duty,he happened to hear a boiling conversation between a father and his son.They seemed to be working in a family for three generations to govern their farm land belonged to some other village .The invisible man with all his curiosity  lent his ears to them.

   Father,"Son! It is totally unfair! We have been working for this kind and good family for three generations.They have a good faith on us.So, as usual, they have sent us to market their huge harvested grains.For their generosity they have got good money for their good grains.If you want to lay your hand on this money,it would be sin forever for our whole family.I never allow you to do this evil thing at any cost ". Son, " My dear father ! I think you are unnecessarily worrying about all this simple matter.If we take a part of money for our well being from this huge amount how come they know? In fact we deserve to have a bit more as we have been working for them for three generations.So stop worrying and start acting as a clever man ".But his father was not at all ready to go against his good master.

    At that time the arguing father and the adamant son could hear a chuckling.They looked for the person
all around.Nobody was there.They got bewildered.Again the same voice continued." Friends! Don't get scared.If you are kind enough, please lend your ears to me to tell my story ". He narrated his story and finally finished saying," As I utilized the house owner's open front yard and the light from his earthen lamp,the God assigned me the job to govern his farm land in an invisible manner, as a gesture of gratitude .If so, I am afraid to think about your next project that is going to be assigned by the God for your ingratitude to your kind master ".

  So it is the time for us to think about ourselves.We tend to owe each other for umpteen times for umpteen good reasons.So let us start it with our parents,our siblings,our education,our teachers and mentors,our life-partners,our business partners,our children,our relatives,our friends,our neighbors,our location,our carrier,our society,our nation and so on.We shall honor this owing to each other gesture throughout our life in a graceful manner.


   

13.The Five Elements.

The five elements are very intimate indeed,

As our five fingers' natural intimacy in deed.

Even they have their own special features,

They never take them to their head at any atmosphere.


Friends' prospect is " Here I am " prospect,

That is evident with their integral respect.

Their nature differ with the change of monsoon,

But they come hand in hand in freak season.


For example; When the Earth is dry and thirsty,

The Sky showers its love through heavy rainy.

When this heavy rains cross their boundaries,

The quick Wind and the Sun come to dry lands.


As the dry lands starts burning with high flames,

Again the Sky showers to rescue the land with no more blame.

If the flames are in real need but show no enthusiasm,

The Wind comes to help with its gradual speed as,"Here I am".


If the Wind crosses its limit with no knowledge,

Again the Sky sends the Sun with its cozy sunshine.

The Sky always does the dual role for the sake of its friends.

To cool through shower and warm through sunshine.


As these five Elements,our five fingers also act so,

It is the time for us to start learning their integration also.

Through these five Elements and through our five fingers,

We have to learn a lot as we have miles to go to mingle all.


First we shall start it with our family members;

For that we shall sort out our family members;

Then make sure that the family is an integral part,

And act for a blessed family through honor our part.


The beautiful long journey with these Five Elements,

I am sure they have helped us in learning many filaments.

We shall say happy Good Bye to these Five Elements,

With our heart-fill lot and lot of " EVER GREEN THANKS ".





                                CONCLUDED.